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title: 02-03 Sermon: Marriage, Gender, and Divine Sovereignty
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Speaker 1 00:00:00
And they both raised the children. And so in the industrial age, for the first time, The man or somebody has to get up and leave the place of work and go off and make uh and make money. And so for a for a brief period of time, We get into the position where the husband leaves and the wife stays at home, does not produce goods, and does child rearing. When you go to scripture you'll see, The Bible is truth that's written for all time in space. The Bible would never nail itself down to that kind of specific stereotypical ways of defining differences between masculinity and femininity. You can't do such a thing. Go to The Book of Proverbs verse 30 chapter 31, where it talks about a woman of worth as see what she does here is a wonderful wife, she's into real estate. Have you ever read Proverbs thirty one She's in the real estate, she does investments. She figures out this ship is going to when this ship gets home. Uh, you know, I'm going to fund this particular voyage when it gets back home to make a return on investment. She's in the real estate, she's in the investments, she's in the sewing, she's in the charioteering, she's in everything. And from what we can tell her husband was in everything with her. Now. So you see to say, when the Bible talks about women submitting their husbands, When the Bible talks about differential differences differences between a husband and wife's role in the Bible, that means that the Bible supports traditional family. I agree, but what's a traditional family? You can't say traditional families is families from eighteen eighty to nineteen sixty.
Speaker 1 00:00:58
You cannot take the Bible and and wed it to one particular time in history. The Bible would never be so forced. The Bible is truth, And therefore, it has to be true for people in every time and space and place. Now, that means that the differences that are there are more subtle, they're more profound, they're more uh nuanced, but they are there. But they're not you're not going to find a little list. You're not going to say, well, uh, what does it mean to be a wife? It means that I cook. It means that I do no you're not going to find it that way. It's more profound. The rules are there but why are they there and what are they? Okay secondly secondly, But why are there differences between uh wife and husband? And the answer is the order of creation. When Paul says, wives submit to your husbands, for the husband is the head of the wife. Whether you whether you realize or not, he's actually pulling us back into Genesis because of this little important word head. The Greek word head is just like our word authority, just like it. The word authority has both a primal reference and a and a uh you might say an etymological reference and a usage reference. See originally the word authority comes from the word author. 
Speaker 1 00:01:52
If I wrote the poem, if I'm the author of a poem, then I'm the authority. I can tell you what the poem's about. Why? Because I am speaking out of my authorship. I am the source of the poem and therefore have authority. So, you see there's a there's a primary, meaning : The word authority means source and a secondary, meaning means uh power, means influence, means sway. In the same way. This uh little Greek word head originally means source ;. It actually means the headwaters of a river. And, when Paul says wives submit to your husbands for the husband is head of his wife, as Christ is head of the church, he's referring to the fact of Genesis where Eve is taken out of Adam. Where in a sense Adam is the headwaters of Eve. In the same way when it talks about the head and the body, There's a sense in which you see uh, the head is here and the body that the body grows out. The body is attached uh, The body from the head come comes the brain and all then then neurological system spreads out into the body. So, but the picture is very very clear. Paul is saying wives submit to your husbands because of a way things were set up at creation. Well how are they set up at creation? This way : There are two things that you learn in in Genesis creation, uh narratives in Genesis one and two and three. Two things that are in those three passages those three chapters, which are absolutely critical.
Speaker 1 00:02:50
For you to understand what it means to be married, Paul is saying you can't understand the relationship between husband and wife in marriage unless you go back to creation. Here's what the two things are. First of all, that the man and the woman were created one to be a neighbor, the other to be a helper. The second thing is that husband and wife pardon me, The man and woman's original nature was cursed their neighborhood and their helpership was cursed. So it was they were created in a certain way, but because of sin, there's a certain kind of corruption. Those are the two things we've got to understand : they're created, and they're corrupted in Genesis, one two. And three Follow me. When God comes to Adam and says, "Name the animals," why was uh God doing that? Was God did hey, God just had a bad day, and he just, you know, was out of out of labels. He was creating the universe and he says, "You know what are these things?" I don't know what to think of. I don't know what to call them. So let me see if Adam's got some ideas. That's not the idea. That'd be silly. To name someone in the Bible was something more than slapping a label on it. To name someone meant that you were shaping, you were taking charge of that person, you were shaping their character and their purpose.
Speaker 1 00:03:45
In the Old Testament, for example, when one king conquers another king, the victorious king renames gives a new name to the defeated king. Why? Because because you see naming is the exercise of superior to inferior. Parents name their children why? Not just because well, that's my favorite soap opera character. I think I'll give that name to my child, But rather, if you look in the Bible, you see that a name was a way in which the parent decided, this is the kind of child I want this child to be. I want this child to grow up like this. When God changes someone's nature, their name is changed Saul to Paul, Abram to Abraham and so on. You know how that works. Therefore, when God comes to Adam and says, I want you to name the animals, what he's saying is I want you to bring order out of something wild. I want you to have an impact. I want you to shape them. I want you to take over. I want you to take charge of them. I want you to take charge of the world and take the disorder and take the formlessness and bring bring order to it and and and bring something orderly out of something wild. And that's what he created Adam do.
Speaker 2 00:04:32
Marriage is one of the most profound human relationships, but it's one that at times can be difficult and painful. We'd like to briefly highlight a resource that provides help for anyone who wants to have more loving and stronger relationships. Tim and Kathy Keller draw from biblical wisdom and their own experiences to offer a year of daily meditations for couples in their book, The Meaning of Marriage: A Couple's Devotional. The book is a three hundred and sixty five day devotional that includes stories, daily scriptures, And prayer prompts that will help couples draw closer to God and to each other throughout the year. If, you would like to make a gift to help Gospel & Life share the love of Christ with more people, We'll send you a copy of The Meaning of M arria ge : A Couple's Devotional as our thanks. To request your copy, simply visit gospelandlife dot com slash devo. That's gospelandlife dot com slash devo. Now here's the conclusion of this episode of Cultivating a Healthy Marriage.
Speaker 1 00:05:11
When he created to do, he created to be a helper. Now, the trouble with this word "helper" oh it's done so much damage. The English word " helper " is is a bad is a bad way to translate this word because when we think of helper, usually we think of weakness. You know, daddy's little helper. What's daddy's little helper? A helper is somebody who says well. 
Speaker 1 00:05:56
Look, Honey, um, You can't really make this. Uh, this uh, this doghouse that we're working on here. I'm building a doghouse. Well, no, honey you can't make the doghouse but you can help me. Uh You can go get the nails. You can get the hammer. See, that's what we think of as that's what we think the word help means. No way! Biblically, the word help is an extremely sophisticated term. First of all, the word help is almost always used with God in mind. 
Speaker 3 00:07:47
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Speaker 5 00:07:60
Bimbo Bakeries. Comma.
Speaker 3 00:08:08
Puritan Bakery, comma. 
Speaker 3 00:08:19
Flowers baking. Toronto baking.
Speaker 3 00:09:19
Which are, some of the largest in the world.
Speaker 6 00:12:13
Absolutely. Here is the revised version with those bakery examples woven in naturally and credibly, without sounding like name dropping. Tone stays factual and senior. You can send this as is. Subject: Re Bakery Ops Manager Opportunity Hi Stephen, thanks for reaching out. Regarding bakery and bread experience, yes, during my time at Reconserve, many of the commercial bakeries we partnered with were large scale bread producers. Red and bread byproducts were a significant portion of our inbound raw material stream, which required close coordination with bakery production teams, QA, sanitation, and logistics to meet food safety and handling standards. Those relationships included operations supporting bakeries such as Bimbo Bakeries, Flowers Baking, Puritan Bakery, Torrano Baking, and Aspire Bakeries. In addition, I oversaw operations for our sister company Top Notch Foods which produced. 
Speaker 6 00:13:08
Breadcrumbs for human consumption. That role required direct responsibility for food grade production, regulatory compliance, quality controls, and operational discipline consistent with commercial bakery environments. On compensation, My current role at Triune is structured as a senior operations leadership position with full P and L responsibility. My total compensation is market aligned for that level of responsibility. That said, my focus at this stage is fit. Scope and long term. Best regards, Braden.
Speaker 1 00:15:10
Our strength and our refuge in a time of trouble. When Eve was created to be Adam's helper, A helper is someone who's got power and resources that the help- ee does not have. And therefore when Adam was when Eve was created as Adam's helper, that absolutely implies deficiencies in Adam that Eve does not have. It implies a power and resources that Eve has got that Adam doesn't have clearly because you see the word help means you can't help somebody unless you have something they don't. For example, supposedly I can help my son with his algebra why? Because supposedly I know more about algebra than he does. That's why I can help. Suppose I didn't suppose I never took algebra, I can't help him don't you see? That's that's the biblical sense of the word help. I've got to have something he doesn't have, But there's another side to the word help. And this is the secret to what femininity is. If I know more about algebra than my son, I can help him. But there's two ways in which I can use that power. I can use it by bringing me myself under him to enable him, to bring him along, To empower him, so he is brought to the place where he can do it himself. Or I can replace him. You see, I can help them with my power or I can replace them. I can do it for them. If I do it for them, then not helping them?
Speaker 1 00:16:08
Helping is a specific use of power. It's putting yourself underneath somebody else, and in a sense, running your power through that person. It's an enabling. It's an empowering. So helping, The word help implies that on the one hand, Eve has resources Adam doesn't have, and it also implies that Eve has a gift, a way of using that power which is enabling and ennobling and empowering. Now this interesting important word helper, then proves something I think it proves now. I gotta be very careful, give me about three minutes to walk a tightrope. And, this is very important because I'm going to come back to the idea of giftedness. Just as Carol Gilligan said, who was not by any means coming from an evangelical Christian position, She says, men see themselves maturing as they separate ;. They have a gift of independence and they want impact. Women have the gift of interdependence; they see themselves maturing as they attach. They want networking ;, they want to be interdependent, and they want to shape people that way. And therefore we can say, as a man looks to be completed by powerfully subduing the world through work, A woman looks to be completed by receiving and becoming part of an interdependent network.
Speaker 1 00:17:06
You see that in not just in what the research says, you don't just see that in the second stage feminism books. Of course, you know, The place where I would part here is most of the second stage. Feminism books say this is the difference between men and women, and women are better. Here's what I want to ask you. Let me ask you: if here's a person who's got the gift of independence, the gift of separation, the gift of moving out and without a team and just doing it. And, here's a person who's got a gift of consensus building and moving people together and moving people into a team. Let me ask you: Which of those things always works? Which of those things is always the wise way to go? Which of those things always is what is called for by the situation? The answer is neither. The answer is both. When we talk about the helper ship of women, does that mean that men are never supposed to nurture? When we talk about the desire for impact of men, does that mean that women are never supposed to achieve? No. What makes you masculine or feminine is not what you do, but why you do it. The men nurture in order to have impact. The women achieve in order to nurture. It's there, it's very fundamental, it's deep and it's part of what it means to be masculine and feminine.
Speaker 1 00:17:58
Is what the only way you find it is in creation. It does not mean that women don't name animals. It doesn't mean that men aren't supposed to help their wives. But what it does mean is that there's a gift. Now, here's where you have to walk this rope. Can anybody remember when we talked about spiritual gifts? I know it was about, I've been in the book of Ephesians for something like eighteen years now, so it's a long time. But listen, every spiritual gift is also a duty. When the Bible says some people have the gift of evangelism, That means that some people are especially good at it, but every Christian is supposed to witness, right?
Speaker 2 00:18:23
From Alexander, Brayden, You don't want me to stop at Bonanza to save you the drive up here.
Speaker 1 00:18:30
When the Bible says some people have a gift of teaching, that means that some people are good at it, but everybody's supposed to communicate the word. And, when we talk about women having a giftedness of using their power in a way that enables, When we talk about the gift of interdependence and the man having the gift of independence, we do not mean therefore the woman's never supposed to be. 
Speaker 1 00:18:57
Independent or the man never supposed to be independent. We're talking about gifts and duties. We're talking about things that you are especially good at, And the reason why the Bible says, when the husband and wife come together, they complete each other, why? Because there is a dark side to your gift. If you are an evangelist type,
Speaker 3 00:19:09
If you. 
Speaker 3 00:19:28
So I'll just finish out the drive. Period. Are you and Brandon still planning on meeting up at Sixth Street to grab the pressure washer question.
Speaker 1 00:19:47
Mark You're, the kind of person that just. Just your gift is to win new people into the faith. Your gift is not to build them up and train them and disciple them. The dark side of your gift is you're always going to tend to be imbalanced, and you're going to need somebody around who says, "Wait a minute, wait a minute. You're getting all these people indoors. What are we doing to help them? " And, if you're the kind of person who has a gift for training and discipling, you've got a dark side of your gift that tends to be an imbalance. You need an evangelist to complete you. And, you need evangelists to teach you how evangelize when you do it, even though that's not your gift. In the same way, the gift of independence, the masculine gifts of independence always has a tendency become autonomy and tyranny.
Speaker 1 00:20:24
And the female gifted interdependence always has a tendency to become dependence. And that leads us to the second basic truth. We said in the in the book of uh Genesis, the first basic truth remember is that men and women are created differently. The second basic truth is they're both corrupted. They both, under the influence of sin, have gone bad. Because in Genesis three after Adam and Eve rebel against God, God comes down and says you will sweat and work in the dust of the ground and thorns and thistles will come up. He says that to Adam. And he says to Eve, you will have pain in childbearing, and your desire will be for your husband. But he will rule over you now. If you want confirmation of this fundamental difference between husbands and wives, between men and women, here it is. When God curses humanity, he curses different aspects. When he curses Adam, he curses his work. He says your need and your desire to have an impact on the world, to be independent, to achieve that impact is going to become an idol. It's going to become too important to you, and you'll always be frustrated because it will never give you what you want. And he turns to the wife: what does he curse there? He curses her relationships. He says : You will want your husband desperately, but your husband will rule over you. And right there. We have got such an important teaching : The teaching is that the wife's interdependent gift under the influence of sin will trip her up.
Speaker 1 00:21:22
She would become a dependent person. She will want to be taken care of. And the husband, whose independent gift is now an influence of sin, instead of being an independent person, he will be a tyrant and he will rule over and master her. And that's why what's so intriguing to me is when the feminist literature says, here's the macho man. Here's the Marlboro man. Here is here's the cowboy. Here's here's the uh Rambo. Here's a guy that's really giving us the problems. Here is a guy who abuses women if not physically then in other ways. And over here, there is Cinderella, there is princess complex, there is you know there is the teen queen prom dream Here's the woman that wants someone to just take care of her. Here's somebody who just wants, he just wants to be on the arm of somebody who's big and rich, and he can just take care of her and let her nurture away, and not have to stand on her own. And the feminists are right, you see? Because in Genesis 3. It says that is what's going to happen when masculinity and femininity goes bad. The independence becomes tyranny and autonomy. The interdependence becomes dependence and masochism. Now unless you understand these two things, the traditionalist people, The people that are always stressing the fact that, yes, husbands need to rule over their wives, they need to take charge. They're forgetting the curse.
Speaker 1 00:22:18
They're forgetting the fact that the Bible teaches that men will tend to oppress women, and women will tend to want it, or at least make it easy for them. Not to want it, but but to make it easy for them. That would be a tendency. The sins of the of the men and the women will tend to feed on one another. And unless there's proper safeguards, Unless we're very careful about that. While we're looking at clear teaching in the Scripture, listen, Women, those of you who are in the workplace, especially in male - dominated fields. Look, what's happening to you. What's happening to you is you are if you're in a place where all the rules are masculine, people don't work in teams, right? You get out there. You watch your back. You're independent your cutthroat. Your. It's a masculine approach to professionalism. You stuff your feelings, you don't worry about that. In that situation, What's happening, though, is because it's not a Christian context, and because it's not a context in which there's this covenant of love, like in the marriage, where two people are committed to one another. In that situation, You'll find that you're continually being pressed into out of your femininity, but not in a way that's loving. And not in a way that's constructive. You're being pulled away and say don't be dependent, don't be Cinderella but you're not being pulled away in a loving way. The fact is the women and men in marriage are supposed to learn to submit to one another and in marriage husbands, supposed to have a loving authority.
Speaker 1 00:23:17
And in marriage, the wife's supposed to exercise her helpership. Why? Because the husband,
Speaker 3 00:23:23
By the way, Comma, do you know how many bags of thirty seven? Oh, one were left over question,
Speaker 1 00:23:30
Mark This independence will becometyranny, unless the helpership of the wife pulls him back. Unless, he's continually being pressed to see what it really means to really be a man, which is not to be atyrant but to be independent. Unless she pulls him back in the same way, the wife, Why the tendency to move toward dependence on the husband and his strength pulls her back. There needs to be a completion. The traditionalists forget the fact that we've been cursed. They forget the fact that men tend to dominate women, and therefore, they have a tendency to just push the old traditional understanding, but the Bible does not support the old Victorian approach, so women being owned by their husbands. But on the other hand, the modernists forget the fact, The egalitarians forget the fact that there is a distinction between masculine and feminine. And there it is. It's very deep. It's all way down. Now look, There's more that we're going to cover next week guys. But what I need to do is just press you this far. I'll press you this far. 
Speaker 1 00:24:16
Marriage, I said for a couple of weeks, is friendship. But now you see it's a lot more than friendship. Because no matter how deeply two men or two women grow into friendship, in other words, two women becoming dear friends, two men becoming dear friends. Whether that is a completely platonic thing or even an erotic thing. The Bible teaches that a man cannot complete a man and a woman cannot complete a woman. Not in this fundamental way. What happens is when you get married and you are continually finding that you are relating to someone of the other sex, of the other gender, you're continually brought up about I guess This very odd mystery. The mystery is this: on the one hand, this is a person who is utterly unlike you. Utterly different, thinks differently, operates differently, and in some cases is frustrating, in many cases it's scary and sometimes it's just downright incomprehensible. But on the other hand, at a deeper deeper level I'm finding who I really am. This is my other half. This is my completion. This is me. When the Bible. What the Bible is saying that it goes a lot deeper. There's a mystery to the otherness of gender Uh one more thing Well. Then what is submission? And I just need to summarize it because next week we can get back and lay these things out in a much more detailed way.
Speaker 1 00:25:15
What then is submission? It's this. It's tie- breaking authority. You see, if a husband and wife are friends, and the Bible says as iron sharpens iron, friend sharpens friend, it is a complete misunderstanding. It's, a traditionalist distortion of headship and submission to say that the wife is the submitter and that husband's the head. That means the husband gets his way. The husband makes decisions for the family. That's ridiculous because if friends. See, if marriage is the ultimate friendship and iron sharpens iron as friend sharpens friend, if in good.
Speaker 3 00:25:37
Okay comma thank you. 
Speaker 1 00:25:43
Friendships, you got this clash, you've got this consensus building, you've got this debating going on. Then in marriage there's also gotta be this equality, this contention, this sharpening each other. How else, are you gonna be grabbing each other and pulling each other away from the dark side of your gifts? You've gotta have the right to do that. And, therefore, most all the time, the way husband and wife make decisions is So. What you do is you're sitting there trying to figure out what's best, but what happens? You gotta put'em somewhere. How do you break a tie?
Speaker 3 00:26:04
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Speaker 4 00:26:16
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Speaker 3 00:26:22
Bags of two by four. Ten bags of thirty seven oh one.
Speaker 4 00:26:49
Thank you. The. 
Speaker 1 00:27:06
Bible's answer is," Let the husband do it." Why? The Bible says this: When you let the husband initiate, when the wife defers, you're getting in touch with something deep inside of you. You're getting in touch with your masculinity and your femininity. You're getting in touch with something very deep. Something very real, it glorifies God and it's accord with your particular modality of humanity. It will not necessarily fit what you've been taught to believe in your English courses in college. It will not necessarily fit even your feelings, but you will find it actually fits the reality of who you are. When the Bible talks about let the husband lead in the final analysis, let him have tie-breaking authority, which formally is not something that is used very often. In my own marriage I say you can count on two hands, how many times that's actually happened. The formal, the formal exercise of authority. But what what the Bible's actually saying is at this point, in this place. 
Speaker 1 00:27:47
Where you let the husband initiate, where you let the wife defer, you will find that you're getting in touch with something very deep inside yourself. And, what you're actually doing is you're becoming more masculine and more feminine, and together more complete and more restored into the image of God. The only, you know, The perfect case is, here's a person who wants to plant a church in New York. And he's married to a person who doesn't want to. Listen, here's how it goes. He says to her hey look I want to go, You don't want to go? If you don't want to go I'm not going to force you. Of course not so we won't go. And she turns around and says wait a minute! You just let me break the tie! What's the use of your being the man anyway here? If you see God calling you into the wild, if you see God calling you to do something wild, look. I don't like to take risks. I don't like doing that. You know, it's bothering my nesting instinct. But if God's calling you to do that, for gosh sakes be a man! Break the tie! Is that wimpy? That's helping. Because, you see, at that point, the husband and the wife are submitting to a role that they didn't really want. The husband doesn't really want to take the responsibility, but the wife is actually pressing him in a wimpy way now, but we see to be a helper, takes a terrific amount of strength. She presses him into the most masculine thing he's ever done. And on the other hand.
Speaker 1 00:28:44
By her deferring to me and saying, "I will support you no matter what, and I won't say 'I told you so' no matter what happens. " She's doing the most feminine kind of keeping her strength and her power under me and enabling me with it. And dear friends, you come to find out who you really are. We know people. Listen, We know tons of people who were for years were homosexual, but who are now in Christian heterosexual marriages. We even know one guy who was two weeks from a sex change operation, having lived as a woman for two years in Washington. D.C. They'll tell you the same thing : that when you actually begin to submit to what the Scripture says, the fundamental differences are between husband and wife—it's not oppressive by any means. Oh no! The husband cannot demand headship, he can only earn it. And the wife can give it. And when that happens, You get in touch with a fundamental difference between maleness and femaleness in you that only submission to the to the rulebook of the designer will uh will help you discover. Now next week, we come back because I know it raises a lot of issues and time's up. Uh The issues are: I'm single, does this mean I can't get completed? And the answer is : You know. Unfortunately, if we're sub- men and sub- women and marriage is for sinners, And the trouble is that between marriage between sinners as as good as it is, It's not nowhere near as good as it's supposed to be or as good as it ought to be. And the sanctification differential. 
Speaker 1 00:29:42
Between being married and being single, according to the scripture, is a trade-off. God calls you into marriage ;. That's the way God wants you to grow into completeness. If God doesn't want you right now to be married, listen, men: Jesus is the helper. The helper. Listen, women: Jesus is the head. You see, He is the paragon of both masculinity and femininity. He is so masculine. He makes us men feminine in relationship to H im ;. That's why He's the head and we're the church and we're the bride. And there's another place where it says Jesus Christ says, "Can a mother forget the baby that sucks at her breast? She may forget but I will not forget thee." And what Jesus, what God is saying is, I am so nurturing. I am such a helper that I even make you women look masculine in comparison to me. You want to be completed? Ultimately come to me. You want to know what it means to be a man? Look at me. You want to know what it means to be a woman? Look at me. I'm more of a man and more of a woman than you are, is what God says. And therefore regardless of where you are, come to me and I can complete you. Come to me and I can complete you If you're being called into marriage, stop being scared of it. If you're not being called into marriage, stop wanting it so badly. Because you see it's God that provides.
Speaker 1 00:30:38
The sanctification, it's God that provides the restoration of unity. It's God that provides the completion, and we're going to finish up on this next week uh, where I'm going to pray. But then when we sing this final little hymn, oh, Lord you're beautiful. Your face is all I seek. And when your eyes are on this child, your grace abounds to me, that's the completion of which even the best marriages, only a dim hint. Let's let's bow our prayer, our Father. We ask now that you would help us to see uh this complicated, and yet wonderful and mysterious subject is, again, nothing but a beautiful parable, a beautiful picture of the way in which you complete us. Uh, Father, we thank you that your son is our husband. And, we thank you that even the best marriages are just dim hints of the joy and the rapture of being one with your son. We pray, Lord, That everyone here will be more equipped to understand the glories of their salvation, because they begin to understand that you call us to be men and women as well as people under God. We we thank you for this teaching and we we pray, O Lord, complete us now as we lift our souls to you. We ask it in Jesus'name. Amen.
Speaker 2 00:31:35
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Speaker 1 00:32:07
It's a pleasure to be with you this morning. If you have your Bibles, you can go ahead and take those and turn to Exodus four. We'll pick up there in a moment. Now, In a sermon series speaking, our way through the book of Exodus by this week, we get rolling with me.
Speaker 7 00:33:06
Chapter Thirteen. The oracle concerning Babylon, which Isaiah the son of Amoz saw. On a bare hill, Raise a signal ; cry aloud to them ; wave the hand for them to enter the gates of the nobles. I myself have commanded my consecrated ones, and have summoned my mighty men to execute my anger, my proudly exulting ones. The sound of a tumult is on the mountains, as of a great multitude. The sound of an uproar of kingdoms, of nations gathering together. The Lord of hosts is mustering a host for battle. They come from a distant land, from the end of the heavens. The Lord and the weapons of his indignation to destroy the whole land. Wail, for the day of the Lord is near! As destruction from the Almighty it will come. Therefore all hands will be feeble, and every human heart will melt. They will be dismayed, ; pangs and agony will seize them ;. They will be in anguish like a woman in labor. They will look aghast at one another; their faces will be aflame.
Speaker 7 00:34:03
Behold, the day of the Lord comes, cruel with wrath and fierce anger, to make the land a desolation and to destroy its sinners from it. For, the stars of the heavens and their constellations will not give their light ;. The sun will be dark at its rising, and the moon will not shed its light. I will punish the world for its evil, and the wicked for their iniquity. I will put an end to the pomp of the arrogant, and lay low the pompous pride of the ruthless. I will make people more rare than fine gold, and mankind than gold of Ophir. Therefore I will make the heavens tremble, and the earth will be shaken out of its place at the wrath of the Lord of hosts in the day of his fierce anger. And like a hunted gazelle or like sheep with none to gather them, Each will turn to his own people, and each will flee to his own land. Whoever is found will be thrust through, and whoever is caught will fall by the sword. Their infants will be dashed in pieces before their eyes, their houses will be plundered and their wives ravished. Behold I am stirring up the Medes against them who have no regard for silver.
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Do not delight in gold. Their bows will slaughter the young men. They will have no mercy on the fruit of the womb. Their eyes will not pity children. And Babylon, the glory of kingdoms, the splendor and pomp of the Chaldeans, will be like Sodom and Gomorrah when God overthrew them. It will never be inhabited or lived in for all generations. No Arab will pitch his tent there. No shepherds will make their flocks lie down there. But wild animals will lie down there, and their houses will be full of howling creatures. There ostriches will dwell There wild goats will dance. Hyenas will cry in its towers, and jackals in the pleasant palaces. Its time is close at hand, and its days will not be prolonged. The first letter of Peter, chapter one: Peter, an apostle of Jesus Christ, to those who are elect exiles of the dispersion in Pontus, Galatia, Cappadocia, Asia and Bithynia according to the foreknowledge of God, the Father and the sanctification of the Spirit.
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For obedience to Jesus Christ and for sprinkling with his blood. May grace and peace be multiplied to you. Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. According to his great mercy, He has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, to an inheritance that is imperishable, undefiled, and unfading, kept in heaven for you, Who by God's power are being guarded through faith for a salvation ready to be revealed in the last time. In this you rejoice, though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been grieved by various trials, So that the tested genuineness of your faith—more precious than gold that perishes, though it is tested by fire—may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ. Though you have not seen him, you love him; though you do not now see him, You believe in him and rejoice with joy that is inexpressible and filled with glory, obtaining the outcome of your faith—the salvation of your souls.
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Concerning this salvation, The prophets who prophesied about the grace that was to be yours, searched and inquired carefully, Inquiring what person or time the Spirit of Christ in them was indicating when he predicted the sufferings of Christ and the subsequent glories. It was revealed to them that they were serving not themselves but you, And the things that have now been announced to you through those who preached the good news to you by the Holy Spirit sent from heaven. Things into which angels long to look. Therefore preparing your minds for action, and being sober minded Set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ. As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance, but as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, since it is written, You shall be holy for I am holy. And if you call on him as Father who judges impartially according to each one's deeds, Conduct yourselves with fear throughout the time of your exile, knowing that you were ransomed from the futile ways inherited from your forefathers.
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Not with perishable things such as silver or gold, but with the precious blood of Christ like that of a lamb without blemish or spot. He was foreknown before the foundation of the world, but was made manifest in the last times for the sake of you who, through him are believers in God, who raised him from the dead and gave him glory. So that your faith and hope are in God. Having purified your souls by your obedience to the truth for a sincere brotherly love love, one another earnestly from a pure heart. Since you have been born again, not of perishable seed but of imperishable, through the living and abiding word of God. For all flesh is like grass and all its glory like the flower of grass. The grass withers and the flower falls, but the word of the Lord remains forever. And this word is the good news that was preached to you.
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Chapter twenty four. When Balaam saw that it pleased the Lord to bless Israel, he did not go as at other times to look for omens, but set his face toward the wilderness. And Balaam lifted up his eyes and saw Israel camping tribe by tribe, and the spirit of God came upon him. And he took up his discourse and said, The oracle of Balaam the son of Beor, The oracle of the man whose eye is opened. The oracle of him who hears the words of God, who sees the vision of the Almighty falling down with his eyes uncovered. How lovely are your tents, O Jacob, your encampments, O Israel! Like palm groves that stretch afar, like gardens beside a river. Like aloes that the Lord has planted, like cedar trees beside the waters. Water shall flow from his buckets and his seed shall be in many waters. His king shall be higher than Agag and his kingdom shall be exalted. God brings him out of Egypt and is for him like the horns of the wild ox. He shall eat up the nations, His adversaries and shall break their bones in pieces and pierce them through with his arrows.
Speaker 7 00:39:55
He crouched, he lay down like a lion, and like a lioness. Who will rouse him up? Blessed are those who bless you, and cursed are those who curse you. And Balak's anger was kindled against Balaam, and he struck his hands together. And Balak said to Balaam, I called you to curse my enemies, and behold you have blessed them these three times. Therefore now flee to your own place. I said I will certainly honor you, but the Lord has held you back from honor. And Balaam said to Balak, Did I not tell your messengers whom you sent to me? If Balak should give me his house full of silver and gold, I would not be able to go beyond the word of the Lord to do either good or bad of my own will. What the Lord speaks, that will I speak. And now behold, I am going to my people. Come, I will let you know what this people will do to your people in the latter days. And he took up his discourse and said : The oracle of Balaam, the son of Beor, The oracle of the man whose eye is open, The oracle of him who hears the words of God and knows the knowledge of the Most High, Who sees the vision of the Almighty. 
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Falling down with his eyes uncovered. I see him but not now. I behold him but not near. A star shall come out of Jacob, and a scepter shall rise out of Israel. It shall crush the forehead of Moab and break down all the sons of Sheth. Edom shall be dispossessed, Seir also his enemies shall be dispossessed. Israel is doing valiantly, and one from Jacob shall exercise dominion and destroy the survivors of cities. Then he looked on Amalek and took up his discourse and said, Amalek was the first among the nations, but its end is utter destruction. And he looked on the Kenite, and took up his discourse and said, Enduring is your dwelling place; and your nest is set in the rock. Nevertheless, Cain shall be burned when Asher takes you away captive. And he took up his discourse and said, Alas, who shall live when God does this? But ships shall come from Kittim and shall afflict Asher and E ber ;, and he too shall come to utter destruction.
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Then Balaam rose and went back to his place, and Balak also went his way. Psalm sixty six To the choirmaster: A song, a psalm. Shout for joy to God, all the earth! Sing the glory of his name; give to him glorious praise! Say to God, "How awesome are your deeds! So great is your power that your enemies come cringing to you." All the earth worships you and sings praises to you. They sing praises to your name. Selah. Come and see what God has done. He is awesome in his deeds toward the children of man. He turned the sea into dry land, they passed through the river on foot, there did we rejoice in him who rules by his might forever, whose eyes keep watch on the nations, let not the rebellious exalt themselves. Selah. Bless our God O peoples, let the sound of his praise be heard. 
Speaker 7 00:42:47
Who has kept our soul among the living and has not let our feet slip for you. O god have tested us. You have tried us as silver is tried. You brought us into the net. You laid a crushing burden on our backs. You let men ride over our heads. We went through fire and through water yet. You have brought us out to a place of abundance. I will come into your house with burnt offerings. I will perform my vows to you, that which my lips uttered and my mouth promised when i was in trouble. I will offer to you burnt offerings of fattened animals. With the smoke of the sacrifice of rams. I will make an offering of bulls and goats. Selah. Come and hear, all you who fear God, and I will tell what he has done for my soul. I cried to him with my mouth, and high praise was on my tongue. If I had cherished iniquity in my heart, the Lord would not have listened, but truly God has listened. He has attended to the voice of my prayer. Blessed be God because he has not rejected my prayer or removed his steadfast love from me.
Speaker 7 00:43:48
Psalm sixty seven. To the choir master, with stringed instruments. A psalm. A psalm. May God be gracious to us and bless us and make his face to shine upon us, Selah. That your way may be known on earth, your saving power among all nations. Let the peoples praise you, O God. Let all the peoples praise you. Let the nations be glad and sing for joy, for you judge the peoples with equity and guide the nations upon earth, Selah, Let the peoples praise you, O God. Let all the peoples praise you. The earth has yielded its increase. God, our God, shall bless us. God shall bless us. Let all the ends of the earth fear him. Chapter fourteen For, the Lord will have compassion on Jacob and will again choose Israel and will set them in their own land, and sojourners will join them and will attach themselves to the house of Jacob.
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And the peoples will take them and bring them to their place, And the house of Israel will possess them in the Lord's land as male and female slaves. They will take captive those who were their captors, and rule over those who oppressed them. When the Lord has given you rest from your pain and turmoil, and the hard service with which you were made to serve, You will take up this taunt against the king of B, aby lon : How, the oppressor has ceased! The insolent fury ceased! The Lord has broken the staff of the wicked, The scepter of rulers that struck peoples in wrath with unceasing blows That ruled the nations in anger with unrelenting persecution. The whole earth is at rest and quiet. They break forth into singing. The cypresses rejoice at you, the cedars of Lebanon, saying, Since you were laid low, no woodcutter comes up against us. Sheol beneath is stirred up to meet you when you come. It rouses the shades to greet you, all who were leaders of the earth. It raises from their thrones all who were kings of the nations. All of them will answer and say, to you, You, too, have become as weak as we."
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You have become like us. Your pomp is brought down to Sheol. The sound of your harps. Maggots are laid as a bed beneath you, and worms are your covers. How you are fallen from heaven, O Day Star, son of Dawn! How you are cut down to the ground, you who laid the nations low! You said in your heart, :. I will ascend to heaven ; above the stars of God. I will set my throne on high ;. I will sit on the mount of assembly in the far reaches of the north ;. I will ascend above the heights of the clouds. ;. I will make myself like. Most high, but you are brought down to Sheol, to the far reaches of the pit. Those who see you will stare at you and ponder over you. Is this the man who made the earth tremble, who shook kingdoms, who made the world like a desert and overthrew its cities, who did not let his prisoners go home? All the kings of the nations lie in glory, each in his own tomb. But, you are cast out away from your grave, like a loathed branch clothed with the slain, those pierced by the sword.
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You will go down to the stones of the pit, like a dead body trampled underfoot. You will not be joined with them in burial, because you have destroyed your land, you have slain your people. May the offspring of evildoers nevermore be named. Prepare slaughter for his sons because of the guilt of their fathers, Lest they rise and possess the earth and fill the face of the world with cities. I will rise up against them, declares the Lord of hosts, and will cut off from Babylon name and remnant, descendants and posterity, declares the Lord. And I will make it a possession of the hedgehog, and pools of water. And I will sweep it with the broom of destruction, declares the Lord of hosts. The Lord of hosts has sworn: As I have planned, so shall it be, and as I have purposed, so shall it stand: that I will break the Assyrian in my land, and on my mountains trample him underfoot; and his yoke shall depart from them, and his burden from their shoulder. This is the purpose that is purposed concerning the whole earth ;. And this is the hand that is stretched out over all the nations.
Speaker 7 00:47:41
For the Lord of hosts has purposed, and who will annul it? His hand is stretched out, and who will turn it back? In the year that King Ahaz died came this oracle. Rejoice not, O Philistia, all of you, That the rod that struck you is broken ; for from the serpent's root will come forth an adder, and its fruit will be a flying fiery serpent. And the firstborn of the poor will graze, and the needy lie down in safety. But I will kill your root with famine, and your remnant it will slay. Wail O gate! Cry out, O city! Melt in fear, O Philistia, all of you! For smoke comes out of the north, and there is no straggler in his ranks. What will one answer the messengers of the nation? The Lord has founded Zion and in her the afflicted of his people find refuge. Chapter two So put away all malice and all deceit and hypocrisy and envy and all slander. Like newborn infants. 
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Long for the pure spiritual milk, that by it you may grow up into salvation, if indeed you have tasted that the Lord is good. As you come to him, A living stone rejected by men, but in the sight of God chosen and precious, You yourselves like living stones are being built up as a spiritual house to be a holy priesthood to offer spiritual sacrifices, acceptable to God through Jesus Christ. For it stands in scripture, behold I am laying in Zion a stone, a cornerstone chosen and precious, And whoever believes in him will not be put to shame. So the honor is for you who believe, but for those who do not believe, the stone that the builders rejected has become the cornerstone. And a stone of stumbling and a rock of offense. They stumble because they disobey the word as they were destined to do. But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, That you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.
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Once you were not a people, but now you are God's people. Once you had not received mercy, but now you have received mercy. Beloved, I urge you as sojourners and exiles to abstain from the passions of the flesh, which wage war against your soul. Keep your conduct among the Gentiles honorable, so that when they speak against you as evildoers, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day of visitation. Be subject for the Lord's sake to every human institution :, whether it be to the emperor as supreme. Or to governors as sent by him, be subject to your masters with all respect, not only to the good and gentle but also to the unjust. For this is a gracious thing. What credit is it if when you sin and are beaten for it, you endure? But if when you do good and suffer for it you endure, this is a gracious thing in the sight of God. For to this you have been called because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example so that you might follow in his steps. He committed no sin. 
Speaker 3 00:53:13
Just like the red carpet. Like a trip hazard here. Oh, okay. I'm trying to fix it for you. I I thought you were like pulling it out.
Speaker 4 00:53:27
Are you?
Speaker 4 00:53:45
Yeah.
Speaker 3 00:54:16
So there was a lot of uh. Yeah. So my oldest is. 
Speaker 5 00:54:36
In a. Not gonna lie, I'm happy it's over.
Speaker 3 00:54:53
I I don't I don't. Good good. 
Speaker 5 00:55:10
Good. How was your journey? Thank you.
Speaker 5 00:55:23
Starting this.
Speaker 3 00:55:24
Says stuff to me, it's like, hey. You can't talk to me like that, bud. Calm down. Sorry,
Speaker 5 00:55:33
Man. Yeah. What's. 
Speaker 3 00:55:42
What's one of those things? It's like you know all the chemicals are changing in the body and stuff. Yeah yeah yeah hey how was school? Oh good man, I almost got in a fight I almost got in a fight I'm just like uh. It's really if Poncho was faster, we'd be all good.
Speaker 3 00:56:23
Thank you. Have a good one, guys. Good morning.
Speaker 5 00:56:37
That's probably. 
Speaker 4 00:56:38
True at that point.
Speaker 4 00:57:27
Two.
Speaker 5 00:58:54
Tell Me now, you trials and temptations. Please, they're trouble anyway. We should never be this.
Speaker 5 01:00:01
We weaken every day. Come, Lord, with the Lord of heaven. Precious Savior, still I run to you. Into the Lord's prayer, oh He is all to take. It's you and me.
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Our sins and griefs to bear. What a privilege!
Speaker 5 01:02:31
I strengthen the small child of weakness watching praying. Find in me thine own and all Jesus paid it all, all to him I owe. Sing every spot.
Speaker 5 01:03:04
Jesus paid it all, All to Him I owe. Sin had left a crimson stain He washed it white as snow.
Speaker 5 01:03:35
I stand in Him complete, Jesus died my soul to save. I live shall still repeat, Jesus paid it all. All to Him I owe. Sin had left a crimson stain, He. 
Speaker 5 01:04:55
Praise the one who paid my debt and raised this life up from the dead. Oh, Praise the one who paid my debt and raised this life up from the dead. Oh, Praise the one who paid my debt and raised this life up from the dead. Oh. 
Speaker 5 01:05:26
Pay my debt and raise the sun from the dead.
Speaker 4 01:06:01
Is the way.
Speaker 4 01:09:13
Hey, good.
Speaker 3 01:09:19
You know, dropped your brother off at the airport this morning. You know, it was nice nice having him over here. So, how you doing with your whole health news and everything? I am living; I am just trying like I kind of said, you know the other day, if anything i am, i am I am fighting more for the opposite. Right, in the sense of like. I am fighting to not lose, you know, perspective that gives me. Cool, we don't have to worry about that. Let's keep on going. I got that. I got to get the boys a soccer practice, you know um. So I am kind of fighting to you know keep perspective. I am not honestly you know just just so I you know I could. 
Speaker 3 01:10:16
If I rounded up, you know, I could say this is has added about one percent anxiety to my life. You know, um.
Speaker 3 01:10:32
So I. You know, I think. Yeah, yeah, but I am trying to capture the. You know this is good. This is this is you know that that, That immediate thought that went through your head of like, what's important, what's not. You know. You know, how do I hold on to that? So. Mhm. Um. But. Um. The outside of that, I mean I. I. Really want to make sure that, you know, like you said, you know, my first first calls were to Corey and John Hey go get checked.
Speaker 3 01:11:16
You know, um. And then. Yeah, it was hard. I don't know if you've talked to Erica at all. It's hard to talk to her about it. Mhm, I haven't. Her eyes got all washed. I know, I know So but Bryce when I started talking, Bryce walked in the room and told him about it as soon as I finished talking, he's like All, right, I am out You know and so I don't know if that was a, I didn't want to think about this, you know. So. But. You know, so. But I'm I'm good, how uh how was mom after that?
Speaker 5 01:12:03
She's not good, she wouldn't say anything else so.
Speaker 3 01:12:07
Yeah you know. I'd imagine so but had to uh. 
Speaker 3 01:12:16
Yeah. So. I uh went and talked to the guy, so. Rick, who works for Fritz, the guy said hey, you know. Uh huh. Go get checked out. And uh. So I went and told him yesterday, I was like, hey man, here's what happened. He's like. Oh, that's not bad. He goes that's awesome. He's like well, not awesome. But you you know what? I mean? Yeah, like He goes for me. It was it was my. Prostate, and when they took it out, they when they looked inside, I had stage four cancer in there. You know, so as soon as it started going, it would have killed me. Mhm. And uh he goes so I just I've just been a you know, I just preach now, you know so, but well you did goodbye at least one, you know, like I appreciate that.
Speaker 3 01:13:14
You know, the appreciation goes goes the other way. You know. So. Um,'cause I I guess he he he pushes his son pretty hard to go get checked out. You know, finally his dad his son's like, all right dad came back I'm playing music okay good. You know but. 
Speaker 4 01:13:40
Uh now I'm good.
Speaker 4 01:13:47
Yeah, Driving. 
Speaker 3 01:13:59
Through Cape, and it's like I am thinking of, you know, this reminds me of mammoths. Roads were all snowed and everything, but everything's yeah we still got a little bit of snow in the. On, um, but uh you know I think it's pretty much gone now. How much snow did you get? I'm trying to know. It was two inches, you know. So uh, but you know it was cold. So like all the roads were frozen. Right. So, you know people were still sliding in the lake because Erica like. 
Speaker 3 01:14:46
So, she wanted to have a party for Bryce. It's like, you know, well, you know it's supposed to be a pretty big storm on Saturday. I was like, No Bryce is going to go to work real early, so they'd rather do it on Saturday. I was like okay. So uh. You know you look at the temperature and it's snowing all day, and you look at the temperature and it's dropping one degree every hour. You know, so I think by the time we got over there, it was like twenty two degrees or something like that without wind chill. You know, right? And uh so and then it just kept dropping after that. Right now I think it was like fifteen that when we woke up in the morning. Yeah Now do the grandmas go to any of that stuff?
Speaker 3 01:15:45
Uh, Grandma Duval stayed home. Grandma, uh, police wife. Yeah, I can imagine that. Oh.
Speaker 3 01:16:09
So Youum with Rocky Point, have you had a chance to catch up on all that? Materials and stuff like that. Um,
Speaker 4 01:16:24
I don't know if I'm a hundred percent. Um,
Speaker 3 01:16:28
I'm probably you know, I don't know pretty close. There might be two or three bills outstanding. Okay, But if I was to go and like mark, everything complete on the job on the budget. That wouldn't keep you from doing anything if you had to add something in, no. No. So.
Speaker 3 01:16:55
Yeah, I uh it's funny like Corey and I get these grooves where it's just like things are going so well, you know? Then, it's like at Rocky Point, we plaster yesterday. And uh like hey man, they've only got like. Ended up putting the hose in the pool, not the spa. Should we put one in each? And he's like, Well, ask the guys, see what they recommend. So I do. And you know, and he's like actually putting two is a good idea. And the guy's like, no, don't do that. You're going to have problems you know. And of course, no, it's fine if you do this this and this. So we do and I'm talking to him, we're just chatting along.
Speaker 3 01:17:39
He's how's the flow in the spa, and I go, "It's probably a little bit too much." He's like, "Well, I can always have Tim turn it down," and you know. But it is you know we both agreed like it is a lot. We're chatting and you know. And then like I am late for uh picking up the boys. Like I ended up showing up to Maddie's school like forty minutes late, you know because he wanted to do this and. 
Speaker 3 01:18:09
It's like I get a phone call at six thirty. Or a text from him. It's like, hey, did you end up turning down that. That water cause it was the spa was overfilling by the time Tim got home and I was like. No. I didn't. Yeah completely slipped my mind as we were talking. He's like dude, that's like the one thing about Plaster. You don't let happen I know yeah I know. Sometimes like I keep up, you know, last night I was like working. Ashley ends in Vegas and she calls me up and she's like, This Corey thing's really bothering you, huh? And she's like, What did he say? And I was like He didn't say anything. Just Like You know In the last couple weeks. I've been like It's like oh, I wonder what happened with this? And then all of a sudden, like video starts playing in my mind of what happened.
Speaker 3 01:19:09
And I am like, "Oh yeah, okay, that's right, that's right." You know. And it's like, "Oh I've got my brain back," you know. And then I do something like this. And it's like, "Come on man." You know. It's uh beat myself up this morning, and uh and I am listening to my worship this morning. It's like in Jesus paid it all and, You know, first it was "you have a friend in Jesus," right? And then it was "Jesus paid it all." And it was like, and all of a sudden, it hits me: It's like, Wait—the peace that we think that whatever money will bring us is the peace that God always gives us when we trust in Him.
Speaker 3 01:20:07
Right, like, hey, I've got all this money. I don't have to worry about anything. Oh, you've got stage four cancer. Right? Like, you know what I mean? Like, but we we're constantly searching for the the thing to solve our problems and it's God. Right? And it's like You know. And and so I am I've right up until I called you on, like trying to spend my time reconciling that in my head going, okay, what is what is that really You know um.
Speaker 3 01:20:39
So, even when I am doing stupid stuff like this, you know, Cause I keep i am trying to keep on telling Ashley and and obviously, I am taking myself through it as well. It's like no every time like this happens, and you don't want to respond to Corey or whatnot out of fear for what Corey's going to respond with. You know, that's you not trusting the Lord because you are afraid of what Corey's going to do. Right? And the Lord seen this whole thing already. Like he knows how it's going to play out, he's using this, you know. And so I've been trying to tell Ashley and that, and obviously it blended now in my life, you know. So it's just one of the but at the same time kicking myself going. You know I don't know, maybe maybe that's as I am talking through it like maybe that's the whole thing that like the Lord is really just kind of like Braden you believe so much in your in yourself? And your abilities.
Speaker 3 01:21:34
Like that, and I am nowhere near as cocky as I used to be. But you know, it's like, But you are still if you don't if you don't constantly realize your need for him, you are going to miss it. And so, I am going to help you with that by allowing you to do stupid things. You know, I am going to press the pause button. On this particular skill that I gave you for just a second. You know. So. Yeah, well even, you know, I mean. You know, I kind of look at stuff, and it's not even a, you know, like Corey getting to me. It's more of a I knew that why did I you know do that? It was really dumb. You know, you know. 
Speaker 3 01:22:34
I mean, I am my harshest critic. Right, that was me. So I responded to Corey, and then it was all me after that. Was what Ashley was she She's like, "I thought you said Corey didn't say anything." I am like, "No," kicking myself right like That's what I was referring to. Yeah. So but. 
Speaker 3 01:23:04
You know, it is what it is. I trust him in that too. Good. I say there's going well or yeah, I think we're you know, we're uh, we've landed on what school we want to send Maddie to next year. There's a place called Covenant Christian that okay, um Candace said you told me about it. Yeah. So we left there and.
Speaker 3 01:23:35
I pulled up thinking, like, why aren't there better options? You know. And then after leaving there, I was like, this is the place. You know. And Ashley and felt the same way. So when we agree on things, you know, we know God is in the mix. You know Now, you mentioned to me that you were thinking about sending Ben there too? Oh yeah Yeah And when I mentioned that. And of course, I mentioned it in the wrong context. To actually add to Ashley, and it was like a nuclear bomb went off. So that's that's what I was working my way towards. So Ben's not going to be going. Um, no, it's not that it's It's um the conversation was left at this needs not.
Speaker 3 01:24:33
This cannot be an emotional decision. We need to look at what's the most like we can consider Ben's feelings into this, But it's such a difficult conversation with her right now because it all really boils down to childhood trauma, in my opinion. From school to school to school, and you know, and the amount of pressure it's placing on her. You know, she's like, you know. I delivered it. It's like we can always send Ben to come and You know, and so what's funny about it is like. So then the next day. Ash passes on information that she learned from. I won't get you into the drama of it all, but Candace Ash perceives that Candace is extremely upset at her.
Speaker 3 01:25:32
And I go, "Yeah." And so I go, "Hey, do you want me to call Candace for you? Like, she seems to be this is unlike Candace and I think she'll talk to me. You know." And she's like, "Yeah, would you mind?" And I am like, "Oh, I didn't expect her to say yes to that. I was just throwing it out there," you know. So I call up Candace and Candace is like, no, i am not really mad. I just i was a little bit bothered You know that she would do that." Am like well, Here from my side, here's how it went down. She's like, Oh yeah, that makes sense. I still wish she she wouldn't have done that, But It's like yeah well, you start right back Eric's uh Facetime me when he come along. Thanks.
Speaker 4 01:26:18
Hey. How you doing?
Speaker 3 01:26:25
Good. Is that your combed hair or are you still have to do that? No I'm just gonna.
Speaker 3 01:26:33
Um, how are we doing this morning? Okay. You said you gave him everything. You've had your medicine. He's had his medicine. Everybody's had their medicine? Yeah. Okay, cool. What?
Speaker 3 01:27:05
No, I think. Hey. Hey, hey. Settle.
Speaker 4 01:27:17
Um. Okay.
Speaker 3 01:27:24
Um, Cool the uh I'd like to finish your application today while you're at soccer practice. So do you think you can do a once over on those. Answers, uh when you get home today. Yeah.
Speaker 3 01:27:40
So. Cool. And then uh You need anything? No, you're all good? Cool. All right dude, thank you. No problem Talk at you soon. 
Speaker 3 01:27:60
Hey, if if she's not there at some point in time, what time does she normally pick you up? Okay, if she's not there by seven forty five, can you hit me up? Yeah. Cool. Thank you. All righty. See him. Bye. See you.
Speaker 3 01:28:42
You know, that kid is growing up. Sometimes. But it's just kind of nice. I woke him up before I left this morning, said, "Hey, you know, can you hang out just in case?" And you know, He called me here somewhere around seven to make sure everything's, okay, and he's like " Y ep. " All right Dad I've done this this all I got to do is You know comb my hair. It's like cool dude thanks.
Speaker 3 01:29:16
Um. So, um. So, going back to Candace, Candace basically said Survive's using, you know, a girl to play, you know. And the I think the implication there is also that it's like. It's either girl or it's you know something's going on there, transgender whatever. And Ashley Ann was like, are you sure she's like one hundred percent I checked this out, one hundred percent fact.
Speaker 3 01:29:47
So, What do we do when you know the next day, we've got a family interview? You know, Ashley Ann's going, "Is this true?" And she's like, "No, absolutely not." In fact i I know exactly who you are talking about. And that's just that kid's from Polynesia. You know, you know, and he's got long hair and he's a looks and he's pretty. You know so, Candace is like, I work with that lady. How could you, you know? So, Servite does all their events at Candace's. You know, and it was like you got to know how this went down. Like the lady's walking up to us at the same time you take a, you know, You send her a text with the lady's picture and saying I know this lady. And it's like oh that's the lady. So we start talking right? And she's like oh I see what happened here.
Speaker 4 01:30:40
You know but. 
Speaker 3 01:30:43
You know, and she's like, "you know, Brayden." She's really stressed out about this whole servite thing. And I said, "But Candace, why is she so stressed out?" And and and she goes well because she's got no support. And I am like to find support for me Candace. And and and she's like, well, you know, like here, I've got I've, got Jameson, and he's going to start being at, you know. He's going to start being at Old Lou till seven o'clock every single day, and now I got to go pick him up. You know, and that's going to be a big old big deal for me. And you know, like this is the kind of stuff that she worries about. And uh. And I'm like Candace, I haven't told Ashley Ann this because I don't want her to feel like. I've got all the answers. I said but. Servite is closer to you?
Speaker 3 01:31:42
And your house, then it is then then Olu is to you, right? She's she's saying that we're losing your support when actually it's easier for you to support us at Servite. And oh by the way, Servite is less than ten minutes away from the Cedeo's house. Right so so why are we buying into this support thing? Why are you giving it to me right now? And she's like, Honestly, and I go, "Yeah." She's like, "I was hoping you didn't realize that," and I am like, "Of course I realized that. You know me. You know." So it's just like. But I can't throw all that stuff at her. It's like. But it's not helping that you guys aren't. That you are not helping her in this way. You know? You are just. You guys are both just fighting for what's best for how your kids feel instead of what's best for them.
Speaker 3 01:32:40
You know, And Ashley Ann's freaking out on on how this is going to ruin her workday. I get that, but if she would you know, and this is between and if this was between uh you know, and this comment is just for you and not my not my wife. But I am sorry like if I haven't looked. This is me assuming. But if I looked at how how much time was spent on Instagram each day and shaved maybe even twenty five percent, maybe even ten percent of that, that would be all of the pickup time for the entire day. You know, So it's like I am not. You are gonna have to make decisions to help your workday. And I know that some of this time you go, and you know, you need to zone out for a minute because you are stressed out, but that's not. 
Speaker 3 01:33:35
You know, this is the fix is not to stop the stress. The fix is to figure out how to deal with the stress. Yeah, yeah, and it's funny, you know. I mean, I don't know. I mean, I am wired differently; you are wired similarly to me. So, I never make decisions based on how it's going to affect me. You know i mean that might be a secondary tertiary. 
Speaker 3 01:34:06
You know, um, influencer, right? But you know, okay. What's what are we even to do with this is You know, this is Ben's school or Eric's school here or whatever. What's best for Eric? Okay. You know, look This is the best decision. Okay. If, we make that decision. Then what are the impacts here here? Right? You don't start with what are the impacts Right Right, Right, you know, but I mean, but she can't help it. No, no, no. I mean i I just second. But, she does, she does see very, you know, But, you know, when I talk to folks like, here's this. This is the right thing. I just had to overcome myself for a second, you know? Yeah so and the problem is you know like. 
Speaker 3 01:35:00
And what's funny, Ashley Ann is doing a phenomenal job. I am not taking it. No, no. I am setting up the story right. She's doing a phenomenal job of adapting to this stuff and has been. But, it's like you know, the kids. When she went to Vegas a couple weeks ago, the kids stayed with, you know, with uh the Sidios, and you know. They wanted to help, and the kids wanted to spend the night. And I was like, "Oh, this is kind of perfect because it takes some of the pressure off me. " Every, you know, they all want to spend time together ;. They never get to, you know, without the laces involved. Okay, fine. So Larry pulls Ashley Ann aside now. Mind you, He's talked to me every single day ;. He doesn't talk to me about this ;. He talks to Ashley Ann about this. Well, that makes total sense too though. Uh well but it does but it's just like it's two-faced. 
Speaker 3 01:35:54
You know, because we have the same types of conversations with different, you know. And and it's like Ashley Ann, You need to pull all your kids out of private school and send them all to public school. And because obviously you guys are hurting with money, and this is the right choice. And she's like, "Dad, we've been fighting this for all of these reasons this whole time. How is it possible that you would advise me to do this?"
Speaker 3 01:36:25
And she's like, well, obviously you guys are really hurting. And da. And she's like, "Dad, what is this? What are you doing?" Like we are not going to send our kids to public school. You know, I mean you guys complain on one side of your mouth about what's what your what the Laces are learning in public school? And and now this is your advisement to me? Well, you need to understand that even your kids are worried about money. They're, praying for your dad to get a new job or your husband to get a new job. And and she's and she's like, "Dad, We decided this came up because the boys kept on asking to go to Mammoth. " And. And we knew you know that and and you know, Braden had told me that the only way, and he said this in July.
Speaker 3 01:37:19
That, the only way that a mammoth trip was going to happen is if we were to get another job and make more money. And so, you know, he told the kids that hey, you know. And, he decided to use this as an opportunity for the kids to start petitioning their Lord for things that they want and things that matter. And so, you know, and so we included them in. On our prayer, because it was a great prayer. And, this is my take :. This is a great prayer that the Lord doesn't just answer, right, but we get to see His providence through a non-answer, you know, or a non-whatever you want to call it. You know, and so we included the kids in on this practice; they're not worried. But you didn't even bother to find that out.
Speaker 3 01:38:16
You just wanted to fix our problems, you know. And so, but this was all I was saying, right? The fact that the kids are praying at, you know, forget about for you to find a new job. You know, I think is, you know, we we are praying together as a team for the things that are important. Yes, you know and we get to see how dad responds. To these prayers, why is Dad not downcast? Why is Dad not you know downtrodden, right? Because he trusts in the Lord. Even though the Lord here like in even what's funny is like even Ben's prayers. Ben's starting to go, "Lord." Change our hearts, make them more like you. You know, like.
Speaker 3 01:39:10
Because I am trying to like include them in on all of these things, and Ben doesn't really know what that means. He's he's but he hears me saying it, you know, and it's it's guiding. No, this is important, you know. And um she's like, man, you guys are sometimes like, and this is where I need a little bit more. Sympathy, but I get with you and I get to vent a little bit, you know. And it's like Larry quit his he had this Bible study, you know, Where he tried to get everybody to witness more, and everybody said, no I am not really, this is not really my shtick. And since everybody disagreed with him, he quit the Bible study. And he's like, you know, You won't do it my way. So we're not i am taking my ball and i am going home." Yeah, and it's like.
Speaker 3 01:40:09
How do you win people over? You know, they're not allowed to disagree with you. You're not allowed to, you know, you could have walked alongside of them and shown them why without pushing. And then one day when they had that "aha" moment, you could have gained that credit and said, "You know what? We should have listened to Larry back way back when." You know, he was guiding us this whole time. You know, instead he took your ball and went home. Like I can't be here. So it's just. No, I mean but. You've come back to the same thing. We are all broken, right? Right, no, And I use it more like I, don't you know I see that? And i don't I don't hold Larry. Um, But the difficulty is um that this kind of thinking is always whispering in my wife's ear, and it's very hard for her to like. I grew up this way; I am being supported this way very.
Speaker 3 01:41:09
And it's like, and and I guess she she told. She's in Vegas. She met with their new so they bought out this company called Res Tech, and I won't go too big into this, But um so she went to Vegas to meet with like the VP of sales, and they're they're running a trade show together. And, you know, the VP of sales is actually like one of the like the son of the owner, who was running the company. And uh, you know they're going through all this and she's like, you know. And so it turns out he's a Christian and so he's like, tell me a little bit. So like, You know, one story go. Wait. Wait. What? What are you talking about? Your yourniece You know and I. Well, let me tell you the story, right, like You know that kind of thing and she's like, you know it's funny I So she's telling me this last night.
Speaker 4 01:41:57
She's like there. 
Speaker 3 01:41:58
Is many things that I went along with my husband on that. I didn't want to do at all. But. I thought it was the right thing to do, and so I submitted to him in this decision-making process. And it was extremely difficult, and I resented him for years for this. It's funny; I am like hearing this little "you did," but now looking back, I mean, These things have turned into very beautiful things that are huge important things in my life that.
Speaker 3 01:42:33
You know, we did the right thing, and look how they came out. And if I got it my way, I wouldn't have this wonderful thing in my life. You know. And it was like, man, That's you know It's like I always feel like I am not doing it doing it right with my wife. You know because we don't do Bible studies and stuff like that. You know, but it's like sometimes I would hear her talking. And it was like wait, that's my phrase. You know um It's like well. It's working, it's just not in the way that I think it should, you know. So. Thanks Dad, I haven't cried in a little bit. You made me cry again. Hey, I'm always here for you. Yeah. So But no, I'm good.
Speaker 3 01:43:33
Long-winded answer. I am good. We're just we're struggling through, you know, life right now. And honestly, I think the biggest i in a perfect world if Ashley Ann said "hey, " I think that, that would you know fix a lot of my financial issues. Um, cause it's so freaking expensive like To give me an idea, I mean, I like Prentice is just about forty grand a year, you know. And and Covenant Christian will be if I round up it's nine. You know. So, you know and then and then Fairmont's about twenty four. You know so if I can go from sixty four. 
Speaker 3 01:44:32
To sixteen or eighteen, you know. You know, truck gets paid off in July, August, something like that. It's another thousand dollars a month. You know. It's like I can see I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. And, that's and that's when and that's when stage four cancer hit me and I went into the hospital. But you know, But it's but let's let's say I do come out and like everybody's, like oh man, I am sorry things aren't going well for you. And it's like, I didn't say that. I just told you, you guys, you asked me about work. You know, and what's it's been interesting talking to people about this. It's like no, you asked me about work. You know, I told you that work is not going great. I didn't tell you that my life. You know, I wouldn't trade all of this for the world. I've learned so much. My family has learned so much. You know,' i at such a good place with my wife right now.
Speaker 3 01:45:32
You know, um, teaching my kids things. My kids' prayers are now their their actions are not. Their actions aren't always you know in line with their with their prayers, but you know, um, but we're getting there. So. But even like last night, they were fighting about who got to sleep in the bed with me. You know that's what they do and Ben's like, you know what guys since there is only two nights, you know you guys take it.
Speaker 3 01:46:02
That's good. Paper, rock, scissors. And Matty's like, "Wait, wait." You know it's like dude you lost. He's like but I always lose. Like, but you agreed to do this dude and Ben goes, you know what Matty you take mine? Hey, man now Matty feels bad, wait. Why why Ben what what you know and he goes You guys want it more than I do don't worry about it. You know That's cool And, then you know, yeah, yeah. And then Ben did something like a few minutes later. Like dude, you just took away every all. Oh, your deposit you just withdrew it. You know, ten minutes later, dude. Was it really that important? No. So. Anyways. Oh. 
Speaker 5 01:46:52
Yeah, yeah we're good just kind of catch up with you know everything. 
Speaker 3 01:47:01
You know, yesterday I was all you know. Finally, yesterday was yesterday. Today's yeah, they accepted grandma to a cause like when she moved. You know she basically she she doesn't have any. She didn't have any um medical insurance because they had canceled her. And then and then we couldn't get on, you know, anyway, long story. Finally, finally, yesterday, you know, I finally, got the insurance for her. And. You know, it's like okay. She's already running out of prescriptions, So I am trying to work, and you know, set her up with a doctor. And you know, it's like she's you know talking to them and they're like, "Okay, I need this." Okay i mean I have to go downstairs. Okay, I get that. Okay now I need this. Uh, I gotta go upstairs now. I need this. Yeah, I gotta go back downstairs again So the lady started to laugh now. 
Speaker 3 01:48:00
You know, um, no just junk like that. You know, I mean no big deal. You know, it's no no big deal. But it's just like it's like I can't catch up. You know, okay, you know, there is just always so much junk going on that uh, but I am finally starting to catch up a little bit. And then I didn't want to, you know, and then Sean's there. And was like, okay, I can't work too long, because you know, this is Sean's next day here, right? So.
Speaker 3 01:48:31
So. So anyway, but yeah, no, no, we're doing we're doing good. We're doing real good. You know. So. 
Speaker 4 01:48:41
Just uh. So. 
Speaker 3 01:49:06
Yeah, I just pulled up. So, and then you know, so we went and we did off the blocks and whatnot over it. Six streets and then the guys, you know, so if you can finish that come over here. So these guys Brandon Alex show up like I built all this based on, like four guys, you know, having two guys not helping. You need me to move? Okay. Um. We've got, I mean, you know, I've got, you know. I've got, yeah. I mean Corey Corey. We've got a lot of stuff like that. Starting to just we've got um You know, we're just finished Rocky Point eight, two, six three, um.
Speaker 3 01:50:06
Hillcrest is going again. Six Street's supposed to be. Not Hillcrest, sorry. Uh, Clipwood. You know, there's gonna be another one in Stradella. So I think I'm missing one.
Speaker 3 01:50:38
Morning. No. No. Yeah, um, well then in the Rockingham is still supposed to happen. We got the one in Malibu, Malibu and the uh one in Broad G is just a little fountain. Um so I don't know I mean think, but I think we've got enough of a spread essentially to start building on top of you know um.
Speaker 3 01:51:08
Guys but it's what I was going to say. 
Speaker 3 01:51:44
But, alright. Well, I appreciate talking. You know, and uh oh I was. I've gone to do it a couple times. So I got to be honest like and and I'm. But yeah.
Speaker 4 01:52:25
Right. Alright,
Speaker 3 01:52:35
Well thank you and uh. Talk to you soon. Okay.
Speaker 3 01:52:55
Actually, I'm gonna go from here to Rocky Point. You need me for. Huh? Yeah. Do you need me for anything? You may look at it. Oh yeah, yeah. Is that okay?
Speaker 3 01:53:25
Alex said," Hey, you want me to do it so you don't have to stop? I'm already here." Careful.
Speaker 4 01:53:58
I don't. 
Speaker 3 01:54:15
Like the color. No. Color? Color? But. it's like a man.
Speaker 3 01:54:28
So. Okay. Take a look. Okay. And then I'll talk to Corey about the measurements for this. Okay, I did both directions? Yeah, okay, And then so the guys are picking up the pressure washer from Sixth Street, and they're going to bring it here? So yeah because uh So, remember you put the bag around. Oh yeah, yeah. So that the other one I don't know. New one, you can't face it. Oh yeah, it's a Alright.
Speaker 4 01:56:04
Eleven.
Speaker 1 01:58:19
This podcast series is called Questioning Christianity. Don't be arrogant, but you. 
Speaker 5 02:09:16
I Just wanted to check here, as I said very quickly. It said that the cushion.
Speaker 3 02:09:23
Yeah, I am somewhere where it's super fun. So which reminds me, I always thought you didn't have the four now.
Speaker 3 02:09:52
Might be because it's under Reagan. I might have changed. I think I don't know if I changed it or not, but I think it's upped upped a little bit. Um,
Speaker 5 02:10:05
Yeah. How's your morning going?
Speaker 3 02:10:17
I don't care what time you two you go to bed.
Speaker 4 02:10:32
Oh, I get it. What. 
Speaker 3 02:10:53
Happened to me the night before, like. So it's like I actually got up, like got my gun and walked around the house.
Speaker 4 02:11:23
I appreciate that. So, it looks like oopsie last night. Doesn't look like there's a big problem here. So, yeah, I want to brush the pool and what?
Speaker 3 02:11:55
Well, I just it wasn't like I just sick of making those.
Speaker 3 02:12:29
Right. No, I. And that's and that's the the hard part too. You know, it's funny because I was talking to Bodie. Yeah, Cause he's essentially him, and his sister started a business about this kind of doing this. It's like do you want to go back into construction? I'm like all right, thank you. My thought. 
Speaker 3 02:13:01
I don't know that I have the background to be able to go in and fight as hard as anyone else where they'll accept this kind of change. He's like, yeah, that's been our problem too. Like we have to look, you know. So. 
Speaker 4 02:13:19
It's what do you see?
Speaker 3 02:13:43
Okay. I talked to Jesse for like an hour yesterday. Yeah. So, he's going to do tryouts. He assured me that, so we're gonna essentially it's going to go like this. There are some players that I've already told are on the team and they're on the team. But. We're going to open up tryouts to everybody that wants to try out for. They they I think they meant to send a message like the tryouts. Are essentially like. Like nobody's guaranteed a spot on any team. This is the message to the rest of the parents, not to us, because nobody's guaranteed a spot on either of the teams.
Speaker 3 02:14:38
Next year, this is specifically to the to our team, the red team. Right, and they don't want to say that but they're saying like. They they want to communicate like, hey, if you want to move forward with us. You know you just tell us how you want to move forward and and you know, we know who to consider and who not too. Um right without saying it like that um. And then. Um. And so what they'd like to do is like have a tryout, so like a bunch of people are gonna go like, oh yeah, I want to be on the on Jesse's team and I'm gonna try out for that. But. You know not every going to make it. And then that'll be his way to say like oh. 
Speaker 3 02:15:36
So essentially, Maddie, Justice, and Elijah are guaranteed spots on his new team. So, when it comes down to it after the tryouts, he's gonna go, you know, and uh, you know, that's how sure. Well she's apparently she's been pushing.
Speaker 3 02:16:09
Um. Right. Nobody has a problem with him getting it, you know.
Speaker 3 02:17:36
I'm sorry. It's just, it's no, I mean, yeah, I know, but it's just like Ash called me later and stuff. I don't know why I didn't keep texting him. Let myself get distracted and just sit here. So picked up my job. You know soum so here we areum. 
Speaker 3 02:18:05
I think you know we've had to figure out how to do this. Um, I am putting a two twenty as my target. You okay with that, calcium?
Speaker 4 02:18:37
Right. Right. And. 
Speaker 3 02:18:52
Above two hundred, but it's like man I'd. 
Speaker 4 02:19:14
18 inches. I. 
Speaker 3 02:19:30
Mean, I'm i'm not putting a measuring tape on it, but it's more than a foot.
Speaker 3 02:19:60
No, no. It's above the return lines in the pool. Um. Um, were we talking? So, you get the returns at the steps and then you've got the other all this basically. Right. Oh. And then there is a return line. So I'm looking I was assuming that so you've got the two that are the covers that we. Might be suctions. I guess there's probably suctions. And, then you got the return lines that we think are in those little holes in the at the spa dam wall. And, then you got one return line at the deep end that's above the water right now. Right.
Speaker 3 02:20:57
Okay Into the pump?
Speaker 3 02:21:23
Well, and Danny's gonna be here at eleven ish too. So it might be perfect timing.
Speaker 3 02:22:21
Um. Okay, um. So. Still add calcium though. Yeah.
Speaker 4 02:22:49
I guess I could have been.
Speaker 4 02:22:58
Gotta take a bit too. Yeah.
Speaker 3 02:23:30
My thoughts are: I just want to do it while I am walking. I know you need to see it, but the ultimately that transverse wall on the spa.
Speaker 3 02:24:08
Oh, that. I.
Speaker 3 02:24:39
Rule of thumb, what would you say your minimum? Okay. Sure. Right.
Speaker 4 02:25:31
Mhm.
Speaker 4 02:26:16
Uh huh. Hmm.
Speaker 3 02:26:56
No, that's fine. I just when I can get now now that I am with your mentality, Like sometimes I hate drawing this stuff up because it's like I am going to spend all this time. And then Corey is going to go, no, I had a different idea, right? Which is fine, right? It's just but if I can align myself more and more with you, it's just it's like hey do you like this? Yeah okay go right. And so and because we know that the uh think look. Hey.
Speaker 3 02:27:28
So now, and I put that down because of the spa on the other side. That's what we did at Tennyson.
Speaker 3 02:27:55
So These numbers I pulled from our Tennyson drawing.
Speaker 3 02:28:10
So I got to verify that, but if you looked at my, I don't have any space there. So that's my that's my today's number. But uh um I don't think they have any more to float up if if that's three inches. Um.
Speaker 4 02:28:49
Okay. Right.
Speaker 3 02:29:11
Yeah. Yeah, I just thought that that one would be cool because it would also align with with the. You know, the tile as it goes across, as it meets up with the. not when the water line meets up with the cover wall, but you're right if there's any water. And do it so. So right now, it's probably since I think it's going to go down after we make that change, it'll go down so I'll have an eighth inch of water there. But um I'll draw. I can draw both ways and you just tell me which one you want.
Speaker 3 02:30:20
You know what I could do. I don't know if you want to do this. Um, what if we, What if I dropped the second hose and turned it off and then changed the flow rate? And then just changed the flow rate. So it fills up in the morning So. It fills up by, you know, eight a m Okay.
Speaker 4 02:30:54
Right. Right. No good.
Speaker 4 02:31:24
Yeah, no, that works. Cool. Thank you.

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The sermon discusses the complexities of marriage, gender roles, and divine sovereignty, emphasizing that traditional roles are culturally constructed rather than biblically mandated. Tim Keller argues that the concepts of headship and submission should be understood as rooted in creation, with "head" meaning source and "helper" signifying strength. He highlights the innate differences between men and women, which can become corrupted by sin, leading to tyranny and unhealthy dependence. The narrative illustrates these themes through the McLeish family's personal struggles, revealing how their interactions reflect the theological principles discussed. Ultimately, the sermon concludes that true fulfillment comes from a relationship with God, rather than solely through marriage.