record_id: 2f1f8b3e-f83d-81e2-bdb8-ec65d9725969 created_time: 2026-01-23T14:49:00.000Z title: 01-21 To-Do List: School Applications, Work Follow-ups, and Supply Orders source_url: / [TRANSCRIPTION] Speaker 1 00:01:04 Okay. Speaker 2 00:02:20 I don't trust this piss green letter. Speaker 3 00:02:29 So much they're taking you social media. Speaker 1 00:05:55 Okay. Speaker 4 00:06:42 I Am going to the market. Speaker 1 00:07:56 Where are they going with this? Oh, Speaker 4 00:07:60 Um, that's all going. Speaker 5 00:08:03 All backfill. So, yeah. They. Speaker 4 00:08:18 Were waiting on the pressure washer. I brought it over here and Alex had to just touch up the go this. A couple spots on the grout. Uh- huh. But we got everything into a truck, and that was the last thing that had to be done is just the grout process. Okay. And then with the grout, we put it... I don't know, put it in the room uh... That storage room? Speaker 5 00:08:40 Yeah, right where we got it. Speaker 4 00:08:42 Yeah. That's where we're at back there or I told him to put it back there. Okay. Speaker 5 00:08:50 Um... We had another problem. Speaker 5 00:08:57 I uh I'll show it to you in a second. Speaker 4 00:09:01 I got the street clean. Problemum. Speaker 1 00:09:15 At Malibu. Speaker 5 00:09:19 Oh no. Remember how you called me and asked me. Speaker 5 00:09:27 Um. Where I. If I wanted to flush to the shock creek. Yeah. No, no thank you. Um. The uh the sumps shouldn't have been flushed to the concrete that's why I was asking that we were breaking up and I you know. Speaker 5 00:09:57 Sumps are always. It's in it, so it's a fountain, so we do by code real quick. But sumps, anything that gets the cover always needs a sump. So and if it's a suction, you know meaning it's not a return, it's going to get a cover. Um so wherever we you know the issue then becomes you know how do we communicate Made all of these, but I would say that you know, if it's larger, it gets it gets them tough. Okay. So, you know Corey sent me a text and he's like why'd we do this? And I was like it was and my response was communication error. And uh he's like this isn't new. So I called him. He's like look man. Speaker 5 00:10:58 Had bad reception. She asked me what we could have done. She's like, okay, look, I don't really care about this one. It's just a fountain. But we need to know if there's a fundamental of Michael. We know we're good. Okay And that was it like that was you know... And they just kind of... Speaker 4 00:11:25 Just kind of tip it down towards... Speaker 5 00:11:28 We can leave it. Well, yeah, we can leave it because in a fountain, you know, in a fountain you don't you're you don't actually have to live up to a code in the same way because it's less. It doesn't require the the flow rate that is is necessary for example pool. So um. Speaker 5 00:11:59 But you want to take lunch? Yeah. Um, yeah, I parked in the front right here just so. Okay, I'll help you drop it down. That's where they want to keep that little space open for. I don't know, they made us unload everything with that. I'm joking if Rick saw it then he would have been. Speaker 1 00:12:58 Thank you. Speaker 4 00:13:28 I just don't want to take your stuff. I got this block right here for blocking the pressure washer up. Gas can or whatever. It's got a lock on it that cinches. That's cool for adjustable length. If you give me a receipt, Speaker 5 00:13:55 I can reimburse you for it. Well, I have the receipt. Speaker 5 00:13:59 You're doing it for me, Speaker 4 00:14:00 You know. I just think something might happen. I'll run into a store or something and then come out and... Oh yeah, we should. Oh okay. Just in case. Especially. Speaker 5 00:14:20 Since it's not my name. Let me get the rest, let's check. Speaker 5 00:14:29 Our plan changed today anyway. We're doing membrane. Busy. Speaker 4 00:14:41 Here today, huh? Yeah. Speaker 4 00:14:50 But Busy's good. Speaker 1 00:17:25 Okay. Speaker 4 00:20:24 I Can fly you. Oh, I'll spot you if that's the issue. Maybe ten bucks? Sure. Speaker 1 00:21:26 Alright. Speaker 1 00:22:06 Sounds good. Okay. Thank you. Speaker 1 00:22:48 I'm not sure if I can do it. Speaker 2 00:29:33 Good. You very good. Um, so, uh, what was I gonna say? I'm probably not gonna be able to take the trash today. I mean, I'll keep it in my truck. I'll probably uh probably gonna have to do it tomorrow morning because I'm not gonna have enough on my account to to take it. I could do it in the morning though. Speaker 5 00:29:51 Um One second And. Speaker 2 00:29:56 I'll i'll keep it in my truck and everything too so that'd Beum. Speaker 2 00:30:12 Okay. You already talked to Brandon's here. Oh, never mind. I just seen him. I'm gonna go uh take some of the tools or the supplies into the, to the house. One second, one second. Speaker 1 00:31:00 Um. What are your concerns? Speaker 2 00:31:19 Nothing, I'm just trying to think through what you just told me with my whole mind. Okay, Well I mean it's no big deal. I mean it's just going to have to postpone until tomorrow. But tomorrow, I I mean, well, I get paid tonight, so I could take it in the morning before I head off to Santa Clarita. And then I'm even thinking that I might cause. i'm not that far from the dump So whatever I have right down the side of my house, i can i think i can make it just one trip. Speaker 2 00:31:60 Yeah,'cause I mean, even if yeah,'cause even if even if I were to take that right now, the other load. Yeah. Yeah. So either way tomorrow it'll work. Where'd you find? Oh, all the way up there around the corner. Okay. Speaker 5 00:32:13 Yeah. All right. Let's yeah that works Um I'm on a liquid diet for two days Oh that's what's making all the issues right there That's nice. Speaker 1 00:32:33 What's our plan here for today? Um. I think. Um. Is that home being charged this morning? Speaker 1 00:34:04 Okay. So, I don't like this. Speaker 5 00:34:15 I've got some snacks. I'm on a liquid diet, Speaker 4 00:34:24 So I'm trying not to. How does that work out? You're on a diet? Like, did you eat too much over the holidays or something? Speaker 5 00:34:32 No, like I go get probed tomorrow. Speaker 5 00:34:37 Um. Colonoscopy. You've been there, right? No, you should be at my age, yeah. Speaker 4 00:34:48 Uh, actually... So. Speaker 5 00:34:50 This is what you're doing? Give me five minutes. Yeah, I'll take the whole thing. Yeah. Give me money to take my money and give it back and take it back. Speaker 4 00:35:08 Monster, Monster. Um. I. Speaker 1 00:35:14 Mean, I. Speaker 5 00:35:22 I think yesterday. I checked my sent email. There's something else. Sounds like it's Gmail, right? Ahhhhhhhh... No wonder why it wasn't popping up. It was like that's weird, I wasn't sure about your Yahoo. That's why. So, I'll send it to that. Yeah, 'cause I'm more just, I mean he responded back. I can beat away his argument, but I'm more just going well what's the best approach and not a matter of like can I disprove his thoughts? Sure. No yeah, I think this is what um. Speaker 5 00:36:06 Man, I've been steeped in. Speaker 1 00:36:10 Tim Keller's kind of his biography of formation. Speaker 5 00:36:39 Yeah, because it's like. You know. I uh. I don't want to bug the guy, but I also don't want him to get out. So, you know. Um. And and and I know that's not my responsibility, but it's like you know so. I mean you can tell there is there is he has a fondness for her you can see that so. Speaker 5 00:37:08 Um, there's also a point where it's just like, you know, he's tipped me a couple of things on this stuff. So I was, you know, but I just I just sent it over here. Yeah. Cool. I appreciate it. So yeah, I'll be um... I got to...I'm going to touch base with my guys on something real quick right now and then I'm going to have a bunch of windshield time in front of me so... I'll probably be on the road in the next twenty minutes. Cool. All right, man. Yeah, cool. Thank you. Okay, so we can so that wall? Speaker 5 00:38:08 No, no memory. No, no. Um, well, it's just it's the well. Let me say it differently. The this wall we can membrane but only here because of this coping right, So, I think what we're gonna do here is uh. I think we need to know. Yeah, so that's why I need to know that measurement here because we need to know how much we might float like uh like Bristol. Remember in Bristol we floated up just a little bit like like that. Speaker 5 00:39:35 So, Because The coping is an inch and a half. Speaker 2 00:40:03 So The coping. Speaker 5 00:40:08 So that's the coping, the track, right? Oh, okay. So for this one, the question is where is the tile? Right? Because we need the tile on our mortar. Speaker 2 00:40:40 Yeah. So. Come come on, yeah, Speaker 5 00:40:49 Yeah, yeah. For that many? How much space do we have? So. It's a lot of space now. Speaker 2 00:40:57 I love this. Speaker 5 00:40:59 Well they like a lot of space you know but maybe what we do maybe we go up a little bit and we float, You know, and then like that. You know what I mean? So we uh. But we we float that and then membrane. Up, and then to here. Speaker 2 00:41:26 Not float to here? Just just here. Only here? Speaker 5 00:41:31 Yeah Right? Just just enough for the for the tile. Speaker 2 00:41:37 Okay Yeah yeah yeah you. Speaker 5 00:41:38 Know But I don't know so, So we don't need the we don't need the membrane. Let's just, we'll do it later. So, yeah. Speaker 5 00:42:09 So. To here. I think we need to check more. Right? Yeah. Speaker 5 00:42:41 Yeah, so yeah, because it's two. Yeah, yeah. So two out from the line, right? So the line is not to men of those guys. So I think four four inches out. Oh then for. Speaker 1 00:42:58 The like the finish of the tire when you yeah. Speaker 1 00:43:48 I come here in the morning. Speaker 5 00:43:51 Corey wants to get a Malibu. I'll come here, drop off all the water filters. Speaker 1 00:44:12 I'm gonna go... Speaker 1 00:45:14 Here is good. Speaker 1 00:45:51 I'm sorry. Speaker 2 00:47:07 Okay. So have them have them check for. Speaker 5 00:47:25 I brought this. I think it's water. I brought this for alcohol, Speaker 2 00:47:47 Right? But the latticils. Speaker 5 00:47:50 I mean, do we have extra? I can take it back to the banana. The silver shadow or whatever, Lattice. Oh Lattice. Yeah. So. Speaker 4 00:48:06 If it's something they keep there in stock, they'll take it back, but if it's a custom color... No, Speaker 5 00:48:12 There's no custom that I know of at least. But yeah if you if would you can take it back if it's within a thirty days. Speaker 2 00:48:48 Okay. Speaker 1 00:49:51 Walk. Speaker 1 00:50:21 Yeah. Yeah, I'm just walking it. That's good. Speaker 1 00:50:59 Yeah. Right. Oh, Speaker 5 00:51:25 I'm walking back in because I forgot my. Speaker 5 00:51:32 I can drink clear liquid. Speaker 1 00:52:13 I'm sorry. Speaker 1 00:52:43 No, You're good. No, I just walked past. Yeah. Speaker 5 00:53:06 Right. Yeah, no, that's why I sent you the text that I did. Speaker 5 00:53:17 You'll have to ask me about my night last night, but I want to hear more about you. Speaker 5 00:53:33 Last Night was interesting. Um, I enjoyed hanging out there. So, When we were on our way over there, I was like, "Listen, this is like your opportunity to you know I want to have like an open." Speaker 5 00:54:11 It was kind of like, you know. Um. I want to have an open conversation with you where like, you know, where You understand what I'm doing. You know, you don't have to agree with it. But You understand where I'm coming from, and you feel like I understand where you're coming from. But that only happens if you're willing to be open with me and talk to me, you know. And um... And, you know, we're not going to fight on... You know, and I'm sure what's going on in your head right now is you're like, "What's the point?" You know? He's just gonna... Speaker 5 00:55:08 He's just going to argue all of my points and then logically he's just going to win. And he kind of like looks at me and like, yeah, kind of, you know. And I'm like, you know, I said yeah. The reason why I got here was because I have a good logical argument to make. But that's not what I'm asking for, you know? I'm asking for you to tell me what you're thinking. And you know, and so you know, let's just say that it came down to after we reasoned through everything, it was like a forty-nine fifty-one percent split. You know, like I'd go with you. So or maybe there is something I don't see that you know whatever. So he's like okay. Speaker 5 00:56:06 He didn't even really say anything. And uh, so he's like, okay, so why do you want to go to serve? Want me to go to Serbike? And so I kind of from the very beginning, I walked him through like I heard this guy on the on Hugh Hewitt show. You know that's why we you know I started. I sent you to Fairmont initially. You know um, He's like, I didn't know that. You know, so we walked through all that. We go and and thenum remember Andy? Yeah, from the Rangers. Yeah, Speaker 3 00:56:52 Because I have like fifteen brothers and sisters. Yeah, Speaker 5 00:56:54 Doctor he's got he's got four but you know he's one of five but yeah so Chris his dad and Andy were there and Chris went to Servite. So, you know, so we ended up talking to them for thirty forty five minutes. You know the the soccer coach. We didn't really talk to the soccer coach, but he was fielding questions. You know and uh and then I saw Chris and so I was like hey you know and oh wait you know and so we talked. I asked I didn't realize this but they're Catholic, you know yeah um. Speaker 5 00:57:36 So, you know. Speaker 3 00:57:38 Christiana, I'm Catholic, not Christian. Hm? Isn't her name It's like Chris and Chrissy. Speaker 5 00:57:46 Chrissy Yeah. Speaker 3 00:57:48 And they're Catholic, not Christian. Anyways, sorry. Speaker 5 00:57:51 So You know so we came out and Eric goes Well that was kind of a lot And or what did he say He said something that was like. Speaker 5 00:58:07 It sounded like he. It sounded like he kind of. Like it was meaningful, maybe is the right word. Really, well and that's why I am like really, and and he's like yeah, you know. We go here and the speech just delivers this or the speech, the coach delivers this speech that's just like. Really good, you know. And you know, is saying great things about the program and the brotherhood and and you know how to you know, you know in the way they develop men and stuff like that. And that was, you know he he delivered that really well. And then we talked to Chris and Chris, you know just singing the praises of Serbite. Speaker 5 00:59:04 And he's he you know gives his spiel and, he's all for it. And now and then I realize and I go, You are mad because. You know you are mad because they're in agreement with me. And he goes yeah. I. Speaker 3 00:59:23 Was like Eric, Speaker 5 00:59:27 He goes yeah they're just giving you more ammunition. And it's like Eric, I don't need more ammunition. I am not looking for more ammunition, you know. I am. I said did they did they shore up some ideas that i i wasn't um that i that i assumed about the school but but didn't you know wasn't wasn't one hundred percent about yeah they did you know um but they didn't give me anything. Speaker 5 01:00:01 I didn't already. Oh, the only thing I think I came out of it that I didn't realize is their soccer program is year round. So they go, we understand that there are players that are high level that play at high level clubs and they can't commit to soccer year round. But we do soccer year round, and we don't. It's like if you are the best, you are the best, so you are going to play. You know. So what what is interesting about them is they're they They have a minimum of like they almost have ninety there. Speaker 5 01:00:54 They said they're almost at ninety kids in their entire soccer program. Once they get to ninety kids, they're gonna they're gonna field a fourth team. And he's like, I am really excited about that because then more kids can get developed and playing time and stuff like that. So he's we'll hire another coach for it all and so um but I didn't realize it was like a he's like yeah it's a twelve month thing like they they work out three times a week in the gym. They're gonna do this, they're gonna do that. Um, let me find. Um, so the uh. So, um, but I mean it was it was fun hanging out with Eric, you know and just kind of going through all that and. Um. You know we got home and. You know your mom was asking about it or getting back to your parents' place your mom's asking about it and. And. Speaker 5 01:01:53 You know, your dad jumps in, he starts saying stuff and and uh I lean over to to your mom when he looks at Eric and starts talking to Eric. And I'm like, I'm being sold right now. And she goes, Oh yeah you are. Like and he looks at me, he goes is what was that? And I said, I'm being sold right now. And and he like he gives like that little like head nod that he does like, yeah, actually you know. And so. And he right, you know, and I'm like it's fine. You can you know. You can you can do whatever you want. Like I'm I'm open to the conversation. So but he didn't go up, You know, He didn't He didn't uh He didn't try to take me on so that was interesting. I was expecting him to. Speaker 3 01:02:49 Like ultimately we've earned enough credibility with them, in making good choices for our kids, like academically. That. You know. Yeah. That it makes sense so or that like he we've earned that I can kind of said his piece he can only say watch out for you know so much right so. Speaker 5 01:03:21 Yeah, no, I I agree with that. So. Butum. But all in all, I mean it was I It was a long night, but it was a good night. Speaker 5 01:03:38 Good. Um You know like you said, I enjoyed her hanging out with us Did you. Speaker 3 01:03:44 Ever talk to the police about everything? Did you kind of check back in with, Him to see how he thought about it and not what he was concerned about with you and how I gave you more ammo. Speaker 5 01:03:53 He's not really opening up, you know. He's, I don't think he's actually given it any thought. Um, in the sense uh like Did you ask him? Oh yeah. Yeah, I tried to circle back and like tell me what you are thinking even like as we were coming back we got off a freeway to the, I was, and I'm like, "Dude, this is like your last chance," you know. To you know tell me what you're thinking. Um um and uh and it's like not last chance but the last chance of you know this trip. And so he's like, "My friends are there." Speaker 5 01:04:47 And uh, you know, and that's a big deal to me. My coach is there. That's a big deal to me. And uh... You know, we talked a little bit about that. Um, he's got like three or four people that he knows from Olu that are from Fairmont that are going over there. Um... Right. And then... Speaker 3 01:05:09 It's not just Preston... Speaker 5 01:05:12 He didn't even count so Preston is the or four? Um. Yeah. So, cause he doesn't really care about Preston. Um. Speaker 3 01:05:22 But he likes Matthew Lee and a couple of other people. Speaker 5 01:05:26 Right. So, you know, and you know, um so I mean so he didn't really go there so I kind of took the opportunity and I was like you know environment means a lot, Um. I said, uh, you know, and I kind of like used. His cousins without saying anything. You know. I'm like looking what's the difference between you and your cousins. Same value systems same like there's nothing that I think that I could talk to Brian and Danielle about that where they wouldn't agree on. You know we've all got the same value systems right? Speaker 5 01:06:15 But different environment. Are you guys the same? Well, no. Is it okay, you know? Look at the difference between, you know, the look at this the stories that You know that you hear coming out of, you know your cousins who go to public school versus you that goes to private school. And I'm like is it the same? And, And he and he looks at me like his eyes get all big, and he's like, you know, not at all. And I'm like, yeah. And there's stuff you won't even tell me is there isn't there? And he goes, yeah. You know, and I'm like yeah. It's you know I went to public school. You know So You know we talked a little bit about that and it was like you know in environment the environment that you're in sometimes. Speaker 5 01:07:10 You know what, what the. What I was trying to say is is. I said I know I know that your your friends. Are gonna. Are gonna give you a lot of support. Um and make the transition much easier. But they're also going to be affected by the environment that they're being placed in. Speaker 5 01:07:40 Um, and so my what I am looking at is the environment. And I am not saying Olu's bad. I am not saying any of that. I am just showing like, I am trying. My goal is to put you into an environment that that you know that will, Move you along in a way, it would be great if I could put you into an environment that was complimentary to what I am trying to accomplish and that I didn't have to fight against. Um, and I will definitely have to fight against the public school. I don't know, you know, as much about Olu. And I've tried to find out as much as I can about Olu. Speaker 5 01:08:39 I still have some more things to do. Um, but you know, but I am not seeing anything that gives me the same, you know, feelings. The same uh feeling isn't the right word. Um assurances. So he did ask if he could um he said it would be nice to to uh see. Speaker 5 01:09:09 Them practice at Servite. And I'm like, you want me to? He's like, okay. You want me to get you into a uh practice at Alou too? And he's like, yeah yeah. Both of them. Okay. You know So They think Eric's looking at it completely through friends and soccer. You know So Yeah It's it's difficult and it's also beyond him right but anyways I'll I've I've talked a lot I'll let you go Hi, Speaker 3 01:09:38 I'm listening i, I don't have a lot to say about it. Like honestly, like I, I keep, I don't know. Like if this is a conversation about talking about it then like you know then I I don't think I you know. Right right. Um. I've asked the questions about how what he thinks you know he answered and they asked him to help and and you know and And I don't have any more questions, you know? Okay. Speaker 3 01:10:09 I can like probably like. Like I don't want it to feel like it's like a, like there I have something that I can say to it that's like kind of based on my mind that I respect, but it's something that you all respect or do you care about, you know. Speaker 5 01:10:23 Well, but. But I care that you care. So so I. Speaker 3 01:10:30 That's like so and I don't want it to get this conversation was not a, like but this but this but this where you say, What happened, you know, and how it went. And I'm like, not trying to speak to, you know. Then I don't know. Like it, you know. So I didn't want to turn it into a dialogue of like You know, like uh what is it? I'm thinking of the game like um where you'd like talk about me. You know, like Like I didn't want it to feel like that. You know So that's why I don't have a whole lot to say about it Like All I can say is this ad. Speaker 3 01:11:09 I'm glad that I'm glad that you enjoyed your time with the crew. You know, like it's good to run into, you know, Chris and Andy. Is Andy still playing soccer? Yeah. Is he is he on Bailey's team still? Speaker 5 01:11:31 Yeah, they might go flight one next year. Speaker 3 01:11:35 I know it's a big deal. Speaker 3 01:11:38 Um, what's his face? Roman's like the other team. The other twenty thirteen team is going to fight one two for Roman, which is funny. Not for Roman, but you know what is his name Benson. Oh. But they're trying to pick up two thousand and twelve players, which is really funny. But um... Oh and by the way, and I don't know if I told you this or not, but uh... The uh Jesse's E A Jesse, Just posted on Instagram that they're gonna take the team to EA. So they're looking for 2014 players. Speaker 5 01:12:16 He told me he was going to start with flight one, um, so... You. Speaker 3 01:12:22 Made the announcement on Instagram. I don't know. Like we're we're going EA and we're looking for 2014 players, you know, after this age. So... Speaker 5 01:12:31 I'm fine with it, you know? Speaker 3 01:12:33 Like Alaska... The conversation I had was that he was trying to decide between the two, but with EA he needs to have, he needs you know some older kids because and he's worried about you know being wiped out. And I kind of shared with him our experience with Roman and how we lost pretty much every game, but we were playing at a higher level and that kind of sorts itself out the following year. You know. Right. Um But anyways. Speaker 3 01:13:04 But yeah, getting back to the whole survey thing, you know. So I don't know, like. That's you know I just thought. Things I didn't say are some thoughts that like kind of you know. That thoughts on the thing on the subject matter you know that like they're not necessarily complementary just or like you know but I just didn't want it to be a conversation for us. So there yeah. I'm. Speaker 5 01:13:33 I'm happy to hear these things. I just, you know, and I won't even defend it. You know, if if you want to be able to just kind of say your stuff and let me sit on it, that's fine too. Um, you're right. That's not what this conversation was about but it is It is a uh logical next step You know in the conversation flow so If you tell me, You know, I want to know your guys'concerns. Yeah. Speaker 3 01:14:09 Like, okay. Um, if you're okay, I'll kind of can I talk? I'll just talk you through some of the things that I'm thinking about. Okay? Yep. I want to start like with a, I know it sounds awkward but I'm trying to start with like a place of respect, you know and just cause like... I think in many ways we could probably really... Speaker 3 01:14:33 You know, without like associating, there is a term right where you like assume somebody else's feelings are what you feel or like you take on their feelings. You know, on it or whatever or assume that your feelings are the same as somebody else's. I don't know how to explain it. But um, you know I think I think that I could probably like really resonate with how Erica is feeling. Like kind of feels like. Speaker 3 01:15:35 I actually kind of feel that way too. So I'll just say that. Because ultimately, like, I don't feel like... I don't know, I just... Like it's kind of like it comes down to, like I feel like... It's... I'm trying to determine how important how much I prioritize, like. Speaker 3 01:16:05 Like the character of our children from our home. Of like, if he's going to, if we're going to like get ten percent more out of Servite in character and development, then oh you is that enough to make that decision to just go to Servite over what I gained from our kids all of our kids going to Loyola. Okay. 'Cause I don't just see Eric going to O Liu, I see all of our kids going to O Liu. And, you know, a lot of that like unfortunately Ben doesn't like Ben because Ben would be good. Ben is good because he's you know he can have the educational challenges but Matthew does like I think about Matthew and You know, maybe maybe we can get him some speech. Speaker 3 01:17:04 And friendships and whatnot, and the fact that we're switching schools for him. So I hate to bring the academic component up into Eric because we're talking about Eric and what's best for Eric. Um, but like it feels like a home run, like for Eric to go to Oahu in a larger sense of how he'll grow as a person. How he'll... Speaker 5 01:17:40 Hey Ash. Speaker 5 01:17:42 Um, you're like really uh that connection's like kind of going bad. Can I call you, can I hang up and call you back? Speaker 1 01:17:50 Yeah, sure. Thanks. Speaker 3 01:18:09 Hey. Um. Did you hear what? Did you not hear? Like, do I need to kind of go over anything again? Because I know when I'm shooting for me to try to like kind of make sense of what somebody's saying. Speaker 5 01:18:18 No, I think, yeah, I mean, you were saying that you know you're looking at it for all the kids. You feel like it's a home run at Olu. Um You know Ben's kind of going to go where where his brothers go for the most part. And. And you want to look at it from what's best for Aaron. Speaker 3 01:18:36 Right, so I I want to I want to consider Aaron and what's best for Aaron and Matthew. You know, like. Like I worry about the education, you know the educational component for Matthew. And you know like looking at it from my children's perspective, you know what's best for my kids, you know like. For Matthew like the idea of, You know, the social component. Aaron is important to me. You know, the social component for Matthew having to switch schools next year potentially and then in three in four years from that again is important to me. We would have had you know whether or not he considers it you know he considers Fairmont a new school and then switching as like a difficult transition then we could have come up with. Speaker 3 01:19:30 Four different schools, you know. Um. You know, and like so I'm. They said it's like so how much do I value like what we're gonna gain with Serby. You know. Addition to what we already have blue, green kind of like let's say oh You know, if I'm looking like at a bar chart, you know, like I don't know. But it's also just like the bigger picture of um you know and then what I'm gaining with Serby is that much more than like is that worth then I have to then I weigh that on like well now I'm taking my kids to three different schools in the morning and where are they all located and how am I gonna get that accomplished You know. Speaker 3 01:20:31 I look at, like I look on, you know where am I gonna get the most support? Where like yes, you know people that are there are they close by? Can they help? Are they willing to help? Maybe you know do I have you know do I have like comparing Candice to JP is not the same. I can call Candice and go hey can you help me. You know, I can ask her to do something that I wouldn't, Christine or JP to do. Nevertheless, their kids will be driving and will not be able to help us. You know, like in the same way that you know I could potentially potentially get out of having tennis there or even her network if I don't go there, you know. Um So like I get access to that and like don't I do? Like I do? Speaker 3 01:21:30 I think it's just like, I think it's just like a lot of them running around. And so, I look at that and feel a little bit sick to my stomach, to be honest. It's they used to kind of be able to disassociate a little bit and to kind of like compartmentalize. And I can't do that anymore because it's getting to a point where we're going to have to make a decision. And think about the ramifications of that decision and the effects on me, you know, and what will ultimately fall back in my court. You know, it's trying to get on schedule and everybody to where they need to be in the morning is very different than trying to pick them up and just having them wait there until we can get there. You know. In the same way where I'm not super stoked about friends, but I'm getting more stoked about it. And I you know like long. Speaker 3 01:22:30 Candace, I thought I was not coming to Christian, and maybe I can get and I can get help from Candace on coming to Christian. You know, like. I might have more, you know, if we have other people that go where their kids go to Covenant Christian and they go to our church. Maybe we can get more support there. You know, I don't know. So like the same way I feel like Candace is a plus at one school. Like am am more in it where? I could logically perhaps get more help. You know, like because we've always kind of done. Speaker 3 01:23:01 Community with people in order to be able to accomplish these things. And right now, survive feels very far out of my reach as far as like help and support. You know, like it's been easy for my sister to drop off the kids because everybody's been on the way to her commute. You know, I won't have that. Um... Again, this is a lot about me and how this is going to affect me which in turn makes me feel really bad because, I am placing a priority over myself, potentially over additional and this is a bad number ten percent that our kids might get might might get out of going to a school like Serbain where they lead with a certain message which for all intents and purposes sounds really good but in theory may or may not happen depending on you know like whether we're being sold something. Speaker 3 01:23:60 Or whether it actually is fruitful. You know, we've met parents that have come out in the environment, haven't talked to a lot of kids. You know, that's why I asked Phil what his experience has been with the kids that he's seen come out of you know, come to him not because of soccer but because I want to know like has he seen foundationally like better character out of certain kids? You know, like. Period. Um. So. You know, and the one thing that I don't think that you'll take very seriously because you always kind of prove Candace and her thoughts and opinions on things, which is fine. But, you know like, taking aside like I think on some level Candace knows this so she doesn't share information like this with you because it doesn't. Speaker 3 01:24:57 I think that you take her seriously, which is fine. But like she tries to be more informational with me. So like last week, um Jamison's team fights her right, right? And Servite was you know like in just soccer right so it's not about soccer, it's not only looking through the eyes of soccer but this is this is what I have the information that I have to go off of okay? So they're playing soccer and Servite is playing very aggressive. And very dirty, right? Like as far as like contact goes and whatnot. Like and like they've had a couple of fouls and red cards done on them. Olu did end up winning, that's besides point. Candice is sitting next to another mom who has been with Serbite, you know, like three sons' second year on the team or whatever. She goes, "Wow! Like man these kids like Serbite kids are these kids are kind of rough." Speaker 3 01:25:55 And she goes, yeah, historically they've always been like they've always played very dirty. That's that's the way that they've that they have played in the past. So what we know to be about like that's kind of what they bring to the table. You know so I take so she tells me that she's like I just want you to know this is how the game went and this is what was told to me, you know. So I don't look at that going oh how is how my son is gonna play soccer but I look at that as a character point You know, on my chart, I am trying to measure how much character am I going to get out of my son. You know, in return for really really having to sidestep all of these things that seem very easy and upfront for me. And how much is it worth? You know. And then on an emotional like parent level, like it's like totally destroying me that I am going to have to. Speaker 3 01:26:48 Tell one son that he can't go to the school that he wants to, and another son that we're taking him away from all of his friends, the one he knows, and putting him in another school. And I don't know if I have it in me. I like... And I feel bad about it because I feel like a bad parent. I feel like a crappy parent all around. I feel like...I'm not because of how COVID made me feel right now. And I feel horrible. Because of what they want, right? Versus something that like, you know, is the best thing for them. But I feel like I'm measuring it based off of how passionate you are about it and how sure you are about it versus the reality of the situation which is that I don't know if they're we don't really know if he's gonna get like, you know, that much more character out of going to this school and not much more this and. Speaker 3 01:27:47 I like the messaging. I hope, but I don't know if that's that's enough to make me feel good about breaking my kids' hearts and feeling like and going through complete chaos for the next four years, you know? Like because every kid that's going to go to OLU isn't going to get the same thing. They're going to get, you know, certain things out of it that Value just as much, you know. I don't or like not just as much but like the value that all of my kids are getting is almost equivalent to like a small to the and I don't not a small but like to the character component that I'm considering just for Eric at this point. Because I don't I'm not sold on the fact that now I don't know what's going on with Matthew's education yet, you know, and I don't know if it's the right place for him. Speaker 3 01:28:44 To go to where he can be successful. I hope, but I feel like I am making that, you know, I feel like am you know, I am signing up for chaos. So that's my heart. Am really torn about it. I feel really bad. i feel I feel really torn between what you want and my best for my kids and what my kids want, and I feel like a bad mom or not valuing, The character part of it as much as I should, you know. So there you go. And I was hoping that I would that my mind that I would feel so convicted over it, that I would just feel really confident about telling Eric this is what's best for you. And I was hoping that God would change his mind on the matter and that Eric could just tell me, "I'm going to do it and I want to go here and this is a choice he wants to make." But he doesn't, he can't, he won't, and he hasn't done it yet. Speaker 3 01:29:42 I I can't and I I don't know like I can't. I'm not ready. I'm not ready for this. Like, I feel overwhelmed. Also financially, I do think survives better for us. I think that there's there's less you know and i think that might be easier i don't know how easier and i hate the fact that i'm signing up for more financial responsibility potentially with o l u but i don't know but i don't you know so anyways, Yeah, I'm pretty torn up. Speaker 5 01:30:26 Well. Sorry you feel torn up. Oh. Can you hear me? Oh, okay. Speaker 5 01:30:42 I'm sorry you feel torn up. I can see how much this weighs on you, and I feel bad about that. And I do care. Um, I care so much that I intentionally made an effort to not say a darn thing through this whole thing 'cause I wanted you to feel heard. And you are heard. In fact You know, several times in this conversation the thought went through my head is like well maybe if she feels that way I just need to back off. And then it's like no. You need to make the right decision. And she might not be making the right decision. That's what we need to figure out. You know, but I'm telling you this because I'm trying to communicate to you that your opinion does matter that much to me. Speaker 1 01:31:43 Um. First. Speaker 5 01:31:53 Off, I haven't even started going to the bathroom. But. Um. Well, look, I think if the real question is when I respond right now. Speaker 5 01:32:11 You know, regardless of what I say, you know what message will I communicate? And you know, here is what I want is that by the time we come out of whatever this decision ends up being. Speaker 5 01:32:41 Um, that even if it is servite, which I am not saying it will be, but even if it is servite, that my goal would be that you would be able to say, "You know what? He didn't choose what I wanted him to choose." Um. But, I feel like he heard me. So, um, so that's my goal. And then I'll you know kind of everything else comes out of that is my thought you know. So I might not do a good job of it you know but but. Speaker 5 01:33:40 But I, I more than anything, babe, I want you to feel like. I'm listening. Um. Yeah, so. And yeah. Speaker 5 01:34:09 Um, I do think so. Like financial aid at at you know, Serbite ranges from five to fifty percent. You know, I don't think we're going to get fifty percent or anything, but if they gave it to us at fifty percent, I think that would make the decision for us. Right? But if they give us five percent and and. Speaker 5 01:34:39 You know, um, and the Olu gave us twenty five percent. Kind of like what Fairmont does. You know, that might just make that decision for us. You know, um, so I think that that's going to be a factor too. Um, you know I think we need to pray a lot about it. Um we're not really doing that right now you know. Speaker 5 01:35:09 Um. You know. When we get to the point to make a decision. You know. And then we can have a real conversation about. You know, is it ten percent? Speaker 5 01:35:40 You know, is it two percent? You know, is it more? I don't know. I, I know, I know. But i'm I'm trying to i'm trying to take your topics and and you know address them. But you know, I think first and foremost. Speaker 5 01:36:10 You know, I got to finish the applications of both schools, which I think tonight will be the first night I have time to do anything. So you know, and then we'll go from there. And we'll just kind of follow the process and see what happens. And you know, I want i just want us to be open with each other. Speaker 5 01:36:42 Um, and start thinking about. You know, what things and I am saying this please hear me. Speaker 5 01:36:58 Right, I get it. I know I get a bird in my saddle sometimes when I rush. Okay, so when I say are we thinking about this properly? You know. Speaker 5 01:37:11 Um, I'm including me. Um. You know. Um. And then you just go from there, you know? But I I really really don't want this to be, I don't want to just tape, But I really, really don't want this to be like, well, Braden does whatever Braden wants to do. You know. So... Um... Is that fair? Speaker 1 01:38:18 No. Right. Speaker 1 01:38:49 No, that's that's exactly what I'm trying to. Speaker 1 01:39:21 Concrete. Concrete. Speaker 5 01:39:23 Hold on one second. What's that? Concrete. Uh, there's a little bit of concrete in there. Is he no concrete? Huh? No concrete, no this one. He's gonna move. Okay, I'll just do the other ones then. Yeah So Okay I'm at my warehouse Um just, Yeah. Um. But uh. Anyway. Speaker 5 01:40:26 Yeah. Sounds good. Okay. Hey, give me, give me one minute. I'll be right back, okay? Alright, thanks Mike. So, is there a difference between this one and this one? Speaker 2 01:40:42 Yeah One second call my manager. Speaker 5 01:40:46 It's okay it just according to the to the I just saw the label I didn't see the label. Speaker 5 01:40:54 So. I just saw this one here and it that one doesn't have one so. Yeah, I won't throw that. I was just so you you said no, so oh So I didn't no no. I learned right? So but I that's why I asked because I want to do it the right way. So okay thank you. Speaker 1 01:41:32 You carry a college fan. Speaker 1 01:42:33 Wait wait. Tasia was telling you this? Oh, I thought you said Tasia. Speaker 1 01:43:52 Oh, I'm sorry. Speaker 1 01:45:33 And she knows this, or is this what she's being told? Speaker 1 01:46:24 Thank you. Speaker 1 01:47:02 Yeah. Speaker 1 01:48:37 I'm not going to be able to do this. Speaker 1 01:49:12 No. Speaker 1 01:49:44 Thank you. Speaker 1 01:50:33 Right. Speaker 1 01:51:47 Okay. Speaker 1 01:52:36 Right. Speaker 1 01:54:57 Right. Greetings, sister. Speaker 1 01:58:04 Thank you. Speaker 5 02:01:18 Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. I think you know anytime that we're. You know, I think that's kind of the whole thing, right Like. We're going to. We let me say it differently, we need. You know loving somebody is not, Trying not to hurt their feelings, loving somebody is telling them what they need to hear, you know, in the best way possible that will allow them to, you know accept the information as best as possible. Right? But sometimes you got to tell somebody something that they definitely don't want to hear. You know and. Speaker 5 02:02:09 Um. And uh. You know, but they need to. You know. Um. So I mean it would not it's like that's one of the things like what I told Roman is like telling Ben he did a good job, when he's coming out of his you know when he's coming out of his uh out of the game because he cause he Sucking, right? It's not helping. That's loving yourself. That's not loving him. You know, so um you know. Speaker 3 02:03:25 Act that he is going to be named that, you know, because that's just what your guy told you. But like I didn't want to just counter, just said all I said to her about that whole thing was I don't really know what Brian's role, you know, entailed. But I do know that we needed somebody that was more operations minded and if this guy is skilled in that and is not going to be teaching then fine. I guess like. Speaker 3 02:03:56 I don't know, like the wording of his title is like whatever, you know. Speaker 5 02:04:01 Supposedly he's going to be the executive pastor. That's what Brian, your brother- in- law told me. Um yesterday? Day before? Again, I mean I'm not like honestly. I I like Brian as a person, you know. Speaker 3 02:04:23 Brian does. Speaker 5 02:04:24 Brian, Yeah, Brian Betts. I like Brian Betts as a person. I have never said," Oh man, I am glad he's one of the pastors here," right? In fact i've thought the I have judged Todd primarily because of Brian and then Sharia, you know. Right? Um, because like you know. Speaker 5 02:04:54 Look, I don't I don't like Johnny either. You know, um. Um, I think he's too green for the position he has. You know so. Um, but uh. Speaker 3 02:05:06 Right, I feel like Brian Betz should have probably been in Johnny's position to be honest. But anyways. Like but I don't understand their roles and what they are supposed to do you know to be honest and then I think that's half of the problem that they're having it's like who does, The only one that's like really clearly defined, and even then, like I'm still not one hundred percent sure, like how like what he like is responsible for is Keith. You know. Um so but can you still hear me? Speaker 5 02:05:42 Yeah, I can hear you. I can hear you. So by the way, I gotta call Solomon in like nine minutes. Um. Speaker 3 02:05:47 Okay yeah we're, I wanted to tell you about the whole Mark Pryor being hired on thing. You know, like just this information for us to have. You know, like take it or leave it. Like Candice, you know, has had some experiences with him that she didn't really like. You know and he's not really like a relational people person. Like he's kind of like a salesman, you know? Gets y'all all excited when you first meet him but um is not necessarily going to be community supposedly, you know? Like a community. Speaker 3 02:06:19 Like oriented person, it'll be more tasking, you know. But I don't know what the role of the executive pastor is supposed to do. So. Yeah. And um. You know and I guess he got the gig because he is um Jim is one of our elders and he knew Jim because they are both like they both own some properties together or whatever I don't know, So that's how that contact happened. I don't know, not a big fan of that, but that's now hearsay. So whatever. Speaker 5 02:06:57 Well, I mean, you know, we don't care why he knows him right or you know or how he knows him. We care about who he is and and here is my problem. It's not that you know I it's not that I poo- poo Candace it you know right, It's nothing against Candace. It's here is the thing is like it's always negative, and you know, like she's never like calling up. I mean, it's and it's it's usually rumor, and you know, and when I follow up on it um you know like the other night I find that it's not even true. You know, and it just like. Speaker 5 02:07:47 And it's always a big deal. Um, like the Trinity League, um, stuff. You know that she uh. And that's yeah that's my issue. It's just she's she's it's always a big deal. It it's you know it's not always a hundred percent you know accurate right and it's always one sided. It's always like rumor And I and I know what I am saying. Always, and I please forgive me for that. Uh, I just don't. I mean, sometimes she finds out stuff that it's like, dude, freaking Candace. Right? She's like the here is what I feel like she she's like the tabloids. Like every once in a while, like it's always like something now That's that's too far. That's too far. I am sorry uh And i i didn't mean it to be bad i thought that was a good but as i started thinking about it It's like no That's not good um. Speaker 5 02:08:45 It just. Speaker 3 02:08:47 I mean, she admits it, right She kind of like when talking to me, she's like, Man, I'm like when I kind of explained it to her like how like it's almost become like a like a thing that's using it to kind of manipulate us to know so much You know Then I think then she admitted She's like Man, I wish that Like. I wish Like that I wasn't a part of these things. I wish that I wasn't That people didn't You know That i wasn't engaged Like that people. I don't know how that happened, Why do people call me and talk to me like, "Why did Brian call me and tell me about this stuff?" You know, I am like, "I you know you have i I still think that's tough." Brian so not Brian Betts or R. Brian she the pastor the lead pastor at Wilshire Brian something like something with an M. She calls him B Mac. She's known him since she was like in youth group and they've done a bunch of stuff. Like so she's continued to kind of to maintain that relationship. Speaker 3 02:09:44 And like, you know. Like he has a certain thing like Brian is like a part of every you know he's the head pastor I think over at Wilshire so, she reaches out to him from time to time like, you know Jamison got involved in like a basketball youth group over there or you know like, you know whatever. So Brian this pastor over at Wilshire. Called her and told her about this. And, The reason why I felt like should was because that she kind of blames this pastor for the reason why Wilshire went downhill. And also, you know, he want I don't know. I don't know why he wanted to form, but she has that really kind of relationship with him. She didn't seek him out; he sought her out. Speaker 5 02:10:40 But you know what's funny about it is this is like the same, Uh, issue that I have with like Brian Betts. That's my my biggest issue with Brian Betts is is he's he talks crap on everybody, you know? Right, Speaker 3 02:10:56 And that's why I brought that up. Yeah, that's why I brought that up. I am like, look i you have these really wonderful relationships with these people, but ultimately like they should not be talking to you about this stuff. Doesn't matter how close they are. Maybe he feels like he can talk to you about it because you are at a different church and your friends and whatever. But like it should not be like it should not you know like this should not be happening, like, like this you know and and then I brought up the whole Brian Betz example you know that you just said I am like Brayden will always say right you know one of the hardest worst things about Brian was that he had no problem kind of speaking his mind on what was going on and how he disagreed with it to his friends you know and it kind of tainted you know. Speaker 3 02:11:43 It really kind of tainted everybody. It makes you feel like you are connected, sure, you know, and it makes you feel like you have a sense of like, you know, like say in the decisions that you make. But I mean they're just everybody's a sinner. Everybody leadership down. You know, like some of these things are just not meant they're cancerous and it ruins your flock. And she was like oh yeah I agree. Like I wish they wouldn't talk to me about this stuff. Like I wish I... I wish it wasn't like that. I said, "Yeah, yeah." And that's when I brought up like back to Mike. I just chose not i am like thought about befriending Chris's wife and choosing not to because I don't want to know. i you know, like even if I get to that place with her, don't want to know. You know, like it's not healthy. Right? i hope I hope that the elder group you know they'll be in place is doing their job and as long as my core foundation our principle. Speaker 3 02:13:12 You know, and how involved she gets in those matters, you know. Yeah. So, anyways okay, you gotta go. You gotta talk to Solomon. Speaker 5 02:13:22 All right. He's just gonna blow me off like he did yesterday, but you know that's what by the way you started off I'm convinced you said Teisha but maybe I just heard it wrong I thought you were gonna say like Solomon got cut or something You know like I got something hard to talk to you about Teisha called me and I'm like oh no You know maybe that's why he couldn't take my call yesterday You know. Speaker 3 02:13:41 So. Speaker 5 02:14:11 I can't wait to see you. Speaker 3 02:14:18 I'll be home. Speaker 5 02:14:21 Tell you what, I'll give you till four fifteen before I start calling the police. Sounds good. All right, my love. Love you, honey. I'll talk to you later. Love you too, bye. Speaker 3 02:15:20 Your Call may be monitored and recorded to ensure quality of service and for training purposes. Speaker 4 02:15:37 Thank You for calling FCP. Can I help you? Speaker 5 02:15:40 Hi, can I place a will- call order for the Orange branch? That'll be two three four four. Speaker 5 02:15:50 Your name? Braden. B R A D E N. You want a job name on it? Yeah, if you can put Eighth Street for me. You know what you're looking for? Uh, five kits of powder and liquid of uh membrane C natural. Speaker 1 02:16:29 So you want the natural bread? Yes, please. [AI_SUMMARY] Tasks include completing school applications for Servite and OLu, praying for guidance, following up on work items, and making a will-call order for supplies. Specific tasks are assigned to Taylor, Alex, Larry, and Braden, with details on timing and responsibilities.